I am not conditioned with any type of mental health incapacity, but my biological father does. My dad suffers from Ludopathy. Ludopathy is a type of one of the many addictions that exist in the world. This type of addiction generally refers to being addicted to games and/or gambling. As Centro Samadhi says "It is regarded as a disorder of impulsive control.
When I was a little kid, my mom got divorced from my dad because of this and many other problems. Most of the time, he would come home with no money because he spent most of his salary gambling, and eventually, never won a single game. So he would come home and lie about the reasons for him not coming with any money. Most of the time he would say that someone robbed him, or that he didn't get paid.
When my parents got divorced, my mom agreed with my dad about how he was going to help her financially. I was going to stay and live with my mom, and my dad was supposed to give her 20% of his salary to help her pay for my needs. They both agreed, and everything was going as planned until my mom got into a relationship.
Once she engaged with my stepfather, my dad decided to not give her any money for my needs at all. He would still come to visit me, and I was still going to his house to spent time together, but things got difficult when he started asking me for money.
I had savings from all my side jobs, birthdays, Christmas, etc, and sometimes he would come to visit me, and right before leaving, he would grab some cash and tell me that he was going to give it back to me at the end of the month. I was 10-years old at that time. I didn't know anything about his situation. I didn't know about his compulsive gambling problem. Eventually, I never got any money back from him.
I was ok at that time, I didn't realize what he was doing with the money. One time, I was at my grandparent's house, and he called them saying that he got jumped and robbed in a car. My grandparents immediately started crying and praying as my dad was coming to their house, but at the same time, my grandma was saying "I don't believe it". When my dad came, he told us the "story" of what happened to him. He said that someone punched him in the face really hard, but he didn't have any punch marks on his face. When I got home, I told my mom what happened to him, and that was when she told me what was going on with him.
She told me what the condition was, since when he has it, everything. She told me how they tried getting help with psychologists when they were together, but he just didn't go to any of the therapies. She also told me when he admitted to her that he went to gamble, and that was why he didn't come home with money sometimes. I told her that I gave him money and she told me how big of a mistake that was.
At that time, I was still young, I was 12. Since that time, I tried to not giving my dad money ever again, but I still gave him money a couple more times, I love him, he is my dad, and at that time I was not old enough to learn how to say no.
This subject is very delicate to me. I don't really talk about this. I think I have only touched this subject with my dad once, and that was 3 years ago. I'm 17, and it is still hard for me to touch this subject. My dad still has this problem, and I don't know what to do to help him. His relationship with my mother is very bad. My mom has wanted to talk to him so he can deposit some money for my college, but he has blocked her. I believe my mom is taking legal actions right now. I just want to stay out of it, this situation makes me feel sad. I will always love my parents no matter what, I love my dad and my mom, I recognize that my dad is in a bad place, I still talk to him, we are like very good friends, but I just don't touch the financial subject with him.