A Small-Town In Desperate Need
In 2018, the Canadian Journal of Psychiatry published an article titled “Critical Issues in Men’s Mental Health.” The article addresses six aspects of men’s mental health that are often overlooked or not even part of the discussion surrounding society’s general mental health issues. These issues include the drastic rise in suicide and alcoholism in the last decade as well as the typical coping mechanism men employ when dealing with stress, suffering, anger, or abrupt changes. The statistics are jarring. I have been working in education for five years and ministry for more than a decade and have observed a steady increase in mental health issues in general with men making up the vast majority of the patients. I live in a small town in a rather innocuous state that struggles to be recognized for anything other than negative statistics such as, last in education and reaching the top of the list for drunk driving and S.T.D.s per capita. The town of approximately 12,000 employs only one licensed mental heath professional. The city does have a staggering ratio of churches per capita with the last recorded number being over thirty, according to the Chamber of Commerce. The ecumenical staff at these differing sects of churches perform most of the mental health therapy, however most senior staff members have admitted that more often than not these individuals and families are recommended to the city’s one therapist or neighboring cities with the closest being forty-five miles away due to the issues or required treatment being beyond their scope. My calling to the field of marriage and family therapy stems from an overwhelming need that exists as well as deep passion to serve my and surrounding cities in a manner that desires to see communities’ mental health needs met. I have a zeal for marriages and families and, as a teacher, have witnessed more than my fair share of ‘broken homes,’ failed marriages, and the fallout that stems from individuals and families that do not get the help they need. Obtaining a license to practice marriage and family therapy is comparatively easier in my state, however, it does come with a cost. Just as the patients I wish to serve need my help, I too need financial assistance in obtaining this license.
Who I Am
My name is Aaron Jones. I was born in Niceville, Florida to Wayne and Jean Jones. I have two older sisters, Jessie and Mali and they are more than two years older than me. My father was in the Air Force, Special Operations division. My mother was a stay-at-home mom that also watched several other children while we lived in Florida. When my dad was restationed to Albuquerque, New Mexico at Kirtland Air Force Base, my mom decided to go back to school to earn her R.N. where, upon obtaining her nursing license, served her community at the University of New Mexico hospital emergency room which is commonly known as, “the knife and gun club.” My mom would practice in numerous areas of nursing from flight nursing to sexual assault examining. Eventually, she went back to school to get her Masters in anesthetics where she now assists in over twenty surgeries per day. Both of my sisters also went into the medical field, and I have been the fortunate recipient of countless stories of their individual practices; I have heard how the physical medical field takes a toll on one’s mental health.
In September of 1998, while my father was on a training mission in Las Vegas, Nevada, two uniformed men arrived at my house while I was playing basketball outside. I was ten years old. I walked the two men inside after they requested to see my mother. I was unaware of the life-altering news they were about to impart. When they saw my mom, they recited the tragic words, “Mrs. Jones, we regret to inform you that Sgt. Wayne R. Jones has been killed in action…” Our family would never be the same. He died on a Sunday, and I decided to go to school the next day. I was in clear denial, a state of mind I would remain in for the next two years. Over those two years, I would periodically lash out and display behavior that is common with loss. My mother had me see an anger management counselor for six months. All seemed well until I went on a youth retreat and lied to the pastor that oversaw the event. In class one day, a classmate had showed me a brochure to a military high school, New Mexico Military Institute (NMMI). I would then bring the idea of me attending this school under the guise that I, “needed more structure and male leadership.” My mother agreed and, as a 145lb freshmen in high school, I was dropped off July 21, 2002. While waiting to get my head shaved, an upper classman repeatedly was shouting what rank he was. I grew quite perturbed and told him to “shut up, we get it.” He suddenly turned and marched over to me where he would then ball up his fist and nearly knock me out. I was humbled in an instant. That moment would stick with me for the next six years where I finished both high school and my Associate’s degree. I attended two more colleges and completed my Bachelor’s degree where I would then bounce from entry level job to the next. I eventually returned to Roswell, New Mexico, the city where NMMI is, and I found my wife. We were married within eight months of us meeting and are now eleven years in with four beautiful girls. In the first year of our marriage, I was told to apply for a job as a “Customer Service Specialist” at a local car dealership. I got the job and would remain in that position and be promoted three times over the next three years. After an unfortunate layoff situation, I found myself depressed and searching for how I would provide for my family. I had one child at the time and found a job building fire extinguishers. After a year of nearly blowing myself up on a daily basis and building breathing air equipment for oil field companies, I applied as a manager at Walmart. Little did I know that my levels of patience, perseverance, and tenacity would be tested over the next three years where I would become one of the fastest employees to climb to the position of Store Manager. I ran a nearly ninety million dollar store and an HR manager, who held a completely different worldview than I and knew that we were of differing minds, found out that one of my employees served out-of-date chicken and held me responsible. I was released from my position. I had now been fired three times in my life, had a family of four, and no means of providing for them. My depression had reached an all-time high. After holding various jobs, including substitute teaching, and talking with numerous trusted friends, my mood stabilized, and I returned to school to get my teaching license. This is where I belonged, this is where I could be truly used. I love teaching, but after a conversation with my pastor and his heart for the families of my city, I knew I was being called to another direction once again. Over the last eight months, my heart to listen to people and help them overcome their issues has grown immensely. I have a burden to hear people and empathize with them. I am being called to be a licensed marriage and family therapist.
Why Choose Me
Some of the obvious has already been addressed: there is an overwhelming need for another counselor in this city for the work that currently exists, recent statistics indicate that men’s mental health issues are on the rise, and my burden for marriages and families. Apart from these points, I believe I am the right candidate to receive this scholarship due to a proven track record of dedication to excellence, empathetic behavior, and professionalism. I have already completed a graduate program in Christian apologetics, which allowed me to take numerous classes dealing with alternate worldviews and perspectives, however, this shows that I am capable and committed to doing the work necessary to obtain the license. I am the youngest and only boy in my family; I have learned to listen well and actively. My life experiences allow me to be empathic to families, especially those dealing with loss, and the experiences I have had with addiction, depression, and obsessive-compulsive disorder give me an inside view into what my future patients may be struggling with. I humbly ask for you consideration and look forward to hearing your decision.
Grace & Peace.