So I've been a guitarist for around 6 years. Gender norms never even occurred to me- 10 year old Fiona just wanted to be a rockstar and wear studded leather jackets while playing a sweet riff on her axe (plus a short-lived flamenco phase). In reality, it was mostly just casual school gigs and tutoring other kids at first. But recently, I got into orchestral work and even signed up for a summer course at Interlochen for film & video game composing, which has become a passion of mine- a passion with a far more realistic end goal- working in the media scoring industry. There's always demand for film musicians, even if that means taking a random gig for a car commercial (I could probably even get away with just using Cubase or Pro Tools for these). I also figure that film and video game scoring reaches a lot more people than, say, toiling away as the bassist for a jazz band in NYC and hoping to make it big (jazz guitar is so fun ngl)
I got into composing last summer, when everyone was in their foulest mood from having to stay inside and endure the summer heat. Being forced to stay inside is what made me remember flat.io, which was a software I used to notate scores for guitar class. I decided to take a trip down memory lane and revise the piece I had written for my band months earlier- "Song For a Dying King" (We never got around to playing it due to covid), and decided to try composing more. The first pieces turned out really well, and I honestly believe that I would have been discouraged from ever doing music again if they hadn't. Starting out is a lot easier if you judge your work by your own standards, however ignorant they may be, because I realized- by the time I started looking to other creators on the platform for inspiration- that my music was objectively pretty decent. It still had a long way to go, but I learned better in my little bubble of ignorance than I would have done had I seen their incredible works outright.
I remember once, at school, I asked a guy for help setting up an old amp. He fixed it up, played some guitar riffs, and handed it to me with this sus look on his face (*coughs* guy serenades girl who probably knows nothing about music). I sat on the amp, played a complex fingerstyle piece, totally showed him up, and he looked quite surprised. And while I'm grateful to him for helping me, I think this event ties back to the assumption that women are either less capable, less technologically inclined (ok that one was true in this scenario), and that women are always the wife or girlfriend of the musician- never the musician themselves.
I have since gained more tech and production experience, which will make it easier to "prove" myself as a woman in music if such a situation arises again, though it is unfortunate that we have to do so. By becoming a film composer, I hope to raise awareness for all the aspiring female musicians out there who are feeling discouraged by the lack of representation. I also hope that we raise one another up, rather than getting territorial about our fragile and volatile identity in the music industry. I want to show them that being a theory nerd, being good with hardware and tech, and that playing a traditionally masculine instrument doesn't make them less of a woman. It doesn't take away from their femininity, but instead makes them more interesting, well rounded, and capable of holding their own in an industry that holds everything against them.
Thank you for your time and fascinating prompt.