We must work effectively and efficiently to understand the nature of our universe. Mainly with the use of philosophy to understand the laws, meaning, and concept of love and being beloved. Diotima's view on love, in particular, is essential to understanding love and many other philosophies.
Diotima was an ancient Greek priestess and philosopher. Diotima's work inspired many philosophers such as Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle some of the most recognized. The two notions accredited to Diotima in The Symposium by Plato were foundational for Greek philosophy. One is her original teachings on "eros" or love, and the other is her concept of metaxy, or the “in-between”.
"Love was neither fair nor good. 'What do you mean, Diotima,' I said, 'is love then evil and foul?' ... 'Do not then insist,' she said, 'that what is not fair is of necessity foul, or what is not good evil; or infer that because love is not fair and good [love] is therefore foul and evil; for [love] is in a mean between them.' ... The error in your conception of [the spirit of love] ... has arisen out of a confusion of love and the beloved, which made you think that love was all beautiful. For the beloved is the truly beautiful, and delicate, and perfect, and blessed; but the principle of love is of another nature and is such as I have described" (The Symposium).
I understood Diotima's powerful words as: Love is not fully good or evil; love is platonic and neutral. Love can become an extreme evil or an extraordinary good when it is done in a certain way. Love is universal something we all have felt towards someone or something, something we have all been granted. Love is an in-between state, a gateway for more emotions. A corrupted love can be used to hurt and manipulate others, it can be a vessel for evil.
Corrupted love does not simply mean anguish dealt with by physical abuse or bewilderment caused by gaslighting. Corrupted love can be an obsessive love, a love built based on trauma, love used to distract one from reality, and more. Corrupted love, however, is simply a factor of love to Diotima. Love is to be understood as a mean between virtue and vice, good and evil, it is a middle ground with two polar sides. These positive and negative sides collide to make love, and this corrupted love is understood to be a byproduct of this love.
The love diotima describes is to be understood as a love with highs and lows but these two factors are equal and to be expected. Love is not entirely glamorous or pure, and to assume that means one's idea of love was born from confusion.
However, to be beloved is something entirely different. Diotima guides us to understand being beloved as being the reason why one would assume all love is beautiful. Love is misunderstood as being beloved or dearly loved because of how strong and perfect being beloved is. The beloved are loved with wisdom, not simply for physical attributes but for their spiritual and emotional beauty. The beloved is loved deeply and dearly, unlike the loved the beloved is not a medium between positive and negative, they are simply positive. The beloved feel, embody, and emanate all things lovely, all things pure, and all things beautiful. It is refined love.
In addition, Diotima's view on love vs being beloved can be simply inferred as contrasting a love that is a grey area between pure and tainted, a love that is based on physical aspects. And a love where one is cherished, adored, and esteemed, a love that is based on intangible characteristics, those that are found over time, a love that is absolute, alluring, and agreeable. This differentiation led to me understanding that Diotima desired people specifically Socrates to understand that love is not a binary, is to be understood for what it is, and to not be misinterpreted as adoration, especially in the early stages of love.
Overall, Diotima's theory should be implemented worldwide, to allow people to uncover her yearning in this theory. Diotima yearned for people to discern the best way to love another, by focusing their mind on the love of wisdom and philosophy. This love of wisdom is a gateway to cherishing someone. This concept of love is universal, even though we are all subjected to this law of love we may not understand it completely without Diotima's underlying message.