At ten years old, my father passed away from pancreatic cancer. My family just moved a few months earlier to a new state, Massachusetts, in hopes of moving closer to family and getting better choices for college. Everything, however, clearly did not go as planned. When my dad left us, my mom had to learn to raise four children by herself, and she did.
My mom is my biggest supporter, and she always will be. Although I worked hard, my mom emphasized the importance and value of education. She did not simply enforce it because it would make me money, but rather, she allowed me to understand the impact it would have on my life’s trajectory.
My mom explained how my ability to reason and problem-solve would not reach its potential without education. Being raised alongside three brothers, I have always been independent, and the loss of my dad enforced this. This meant that I believed I was equally capable as anyone else. Others, however, thought differently. Being a woman, I have dealt with situations where people couldn’t take me seriously. People treated my younger brother more seriously than me. I needed the education to prove my value in a room where others may not believe in me. If anyone doubted me, I had the strength of my educational background and outside knowledge to back up my beliefs and opinions. My mother made sure I knew this because she too had faced prejudice at my age. She understood how prone females were to limit their capabilities. She taught me that my value does not depend on anyone other than myself. I make my future. As long as I do my best, she would be proud, and I should be too.
Similarly, she taught me more about the real world. Schools often lack the ability to teach basic financing. Since my dad’s death, my mom emphasized understanding finances. It expanded my education more than I would have projected. Knowing a little finance at a young age supported me in understanding adult conversations, giving me the chance to learn wisdom from the older generation. In addition, it allowed me to meet and connect with a plethora of people I would not have been able to otherwise.
Most importantly, my mom helped me by providing time. I never went to a private school or paid tuition, but at the Massachusetts Academy of Math and Science, students need to find their own transportation to the school. If my mom had not provided me with the time to take extracurriculars and arrive at school, the difficulty of going there would increase immensely. Being at the school was the best educational decision I made, and my mom encouraged me. I had trouble deciding if I wanted to go. Going meant I left friendships and a school where I could be ranked highly. I can only credit her for the chance to go here. Her time with me also provided mental support when school got difficult. There were weeks when I practically lived in homework. During those weeks, she made emphasis on making sure I ate and slept, taking care of me as any mother would. She did this all while taking care of my other three brothers.
My mom is my biggest supporter, role model, and therapist. She has taught me and supported me when I couldn’t do it myself.