A simple gold wedding ring sits on my finger, but within its presence lies a vitalizing, multifaceted narrative.
The ring transports me to Ethiopia: Addis Ababa, 1998. My sweet mother smiles; her ring shimmers as the beaming sun radiates upon her calm face. Despite her peaceful facade, she fretted as her enraged father strived to kill her for becoming a Christian in an anti-Protestant society. Disowned by her family, she was left with a ring, a visa, and 500 dollars.
While fleeing to the land of the free, fear gripped her mind as she pondered her circumstances: “Am I qualified to live in America?” Tears escaped from her eyes as she examined the dimming ring. However, as she took steps onto American soil, determination implanted within her heart. Though struggling to learn English, my mother completed community college. While raising two headstrong babies, she accomplished her dreams of becoming a nurse.
She took the rough carbon rock in her way and transformed it into a gleaming diamond. She had finally accomplished the American dream.
Sixteen years after her transition, it is now 2014 in Aurora, Colorado. My mother sits me down inside our brightly-lit home. My 10 year-old-eyes widened as she pulled off the wedding ring from her finger and slid it onto mine. She whispered, “This is why I came to America.”
As I heard her story for the first time, my ears tingled with fascination. Gazing at my mother, I saw courage flicker within her glowing brown eyes. Looking down at the stunning ring, I wondered: “Can I mirror the courageous tenacity my mother formed?” Frightened by this confrontation, I resorted to isolation as my slight stutter and Ethiopian accent hindered my speaking abilities. Growing up as a first-generation American of Ethiopian descent, I struggled to feel a sense of belonging in a predominantly white neighborhood. I felt the pressures of estrangement stimulate solitude. My appearance separated me from my peers; my language barrier caused me to remain mute. My Ethiopian accent induced me to pronounce English words incorrectly, and my peers ensured I was aware of my insufficiencies.
Despite my impediments, the curiosity within me evolved into alacrity while wearing her ring. When asked to teach and lead worship at my local church, I felt the possibility of intrepidity tug on my heart. I led worship for three years and allowed the roots of determination to embed within me.
Yet, little did I know that the biggest test of courage was soon to come.
The chilly darkness began to spill over the blazing sky as my mother handed me her ringing phone. Hearing of my work in Aurora, Colorado, a Minneapolis pastor asked, “Due to your church service, are you willing to fly to Minneapolis to sing and teach to 160 kids?”
I looked at my mother for reassurance; her copper-colored eyes told of the unjust burdens she once carried. I remembered her hardships. I remembered the ring. I took a deep breath and slowly nodded my head; unknowingly, seeds of courage implanted within my heart.
On my flight to Minnesota, the same uncertainties my mother had on her way to America permeated my mind: “Am I qualified enough?” I squeezed my mother’s hand and gazed at the ring, its band so pure I could see my reflection.
On Minnesota soil, I planted seeds of faith among the youth and taught them of their value and strength in Jesus. Through twelve hours of service, the roots of courage transformed into stems of bravery as my apprehension dissipated.
Invigorated, I stepped into leadership roles within my community. I joined the Chief’s Youth Advisory Team, where I communicated with Chief Wilson and her team. I gained their perspective about police brutality and the efforts they take to decrease its presence. In an interview with the city of Aurora, I voiced my credence, reaching 6,000 people nationwide. I met with the mayor of Aurora and stood up for my beliefs by advocating for an increase in police training.
Awakened by my mother’s injustices, I desired to educate others about the austerities victims face. By joining the Justice Education Project, I taught youth the flaws in the criminal justice system. I became the Co-Marketing Leader and spoke at webinars that provided solutions to systemic racism. Moreover, I created educational Tiktoks, which reached over 15,000 lives. I helped publish our first book, “First Steps Into Criminal Justice Activism: For Youth”.
Furthermore, I connected with Chief Deputy District Attorney Victoria Klingensmith, who illustrated the inner workings of the criminal justice system to me. She allowed me to watch a homicide trial in a courtroom; I discussed with different attorneys the subunits within the justice system.
Just as my mother’s ring turned from coal into an indestructible diamond through pressurization, the seeds of courage have fully blossomed within all facets of my life.
As I wear the ring of my mother’s affliction each day, I am reminded of the igniting joy of courage, and hardships, that it carries. Learning from my mother’s dependability, service, and bravery, I allowed the roots of these qualities to sprout into a fruitful tree in me. Encouraged by her strong will to continue her education, I desired to continue her legacy in my life, as I am accepted and enrolled in Cornell University. Not only will I pursue my education at this prestigious university, but I will also pass on the baton of bravery I received from my mother to all whom I meet. After realizing the detrimental impacts of the injustices that my mother faced, I dream to become a lawyer and advocate for those who are silenced. Thus, I will major in Government (Political Science) and minor in Crime, Prisons, Education, and Justice. As I take steps to alleviate the horrors my mother once experienced, I will steadfastly advocate for reform and rehabilitation.
I am no longer restricted by the barriers of anxiety; my newfound courage will write its own narrative for the rest of my life.