Mid-July, summer of 2018, is when that nightmare phone call rang, a terrorizing ringtone that will never escape my brain. A night that lives in my head forever; an alter to my brain's chemistry. Phillip Isaiah Bernal, who I knew would be the future marine biologist to find the rarest species of oceanic animals, or the paleontologist who would uncover mysteries of the Earth and discover dinosaurs we never knew existed- was dead. One call is all it took and my heart was destroyed, hearing about what had happened to my best friend, biggest supporter, and the person who made my life radiate with happiness and comfort. It took weeks, months, years, to find solace in such a horrible tragedy, and yet I still feel that scar in my heart that I know will never go away. So, as tribute to Phillip, who has been the only friend in my whole life who I could trust with anything and count on as being there for me every step away, I dedicate my life to the both of us and pay it forward to others.
I carry a picture of him, hidden in the back of my phone case, so that maybe in some spiritualistic way, he would stay with me forever. Everyday, I dedicate any chance I get to pay that mutual friendship forward. Whether it be respectfully communicating with students at school, tutoring friends for a test, spending quality time with people away from school, or simply just giving out a smile, creating the world a better place for people is what means the most, which is exactly what Phillip did for me.
One way in which I have paid Phillip's kindness forward was through my experience at the United States Naval Academy Summer Seminar. Upon the grateful acceptance, I went to the USNA Summer Seminar because it was where I would learn how to be a leader, grow physically and mentally strong, and build moral values like character, discipline, and respect towards others. Through demanding challenges from anywhere to rowing boats and crawling through sand, I made some amazing friends throughout my experience who have changed my life just like how Phillip has. I went to the USNA Summer Seminar throughout June 2023 and yet I still remember the first and last names of all the members of my squad, their hometown, because the way they've all treated me throughout the entirety of the seminar was like family.
Ashlyn Newberry from Huntsville, Alabama. Samara Burts from Atlanta Georgia. Aaron Kim from Sandusky, Ohio. Jordan McDonald from Long Island, New York. Alexa Hill from Charlotte, North Carolina. Talmage Kanistras from Orlando, Florida. Rodney Briggs from Seattle, Washington.
The remembrance of these people will stay in my heart forever, as they have made me the person I am today. They've been by my side in times when I needed it most, morally and physically, and they gave me the inspiration to take on any challenge that comes my way in life and they've displayed the effectiveness of teamwork. I bounced that encouragement back to them by being a person they could all trust to help them in times of need. For example, when Ashlyn fell behind in the race through the forest, I slowed down and put my arm around her shoulders and motivated her to finish. And she did.
Pain and challenges ironically create love- they shape us, like a fire burning a storybook. They change who we are. Our story. So with that engraved love I've been given, I dedicate my life to paying it forward to others.