My hands start to feel clammy as I stand over the frail and emaciated woman. Gospel plays softly off a CD in the background. She uses all of her strength to fill her lungs with air, each one appearing as if it will be her last. It's drear, I know, but it's reality. All I could think of in the moment was what she was thinking, or dreaming, or nothing. Nobody really knows what one experiences on the brink of death. Do a flood of life moments appear before your eyes as if you're in a roaring thunderstorm, each depiction becoming more and more vivid? Do you think about all the things you wish you had done, or things you wish you hadn't? Some would say you'd meet God or loved ones who have passed. Maybe even dreams filled with your favorite candy, petting puppies, and watching your favorite nightly sitcom. I have learned a lot during my journey to becoming a nurse, but nothing could have prepared me to look at death through the eyes of another person.
On that day my urge to become the best nurse that I could possibly be was strengthened further than I could have ever imagined possible. We may never truly understand what happens cognitively in those final moments, but as nurses we can create an environment that is nurturing and atmospherically positive for our patients to spend their final moments. My mission as a future nurse is to always foster warm, supportive, and relaxing conditions for all patients, but especially those who spend their final moments in my presence.
Oftentimes our purpose in the world may seem unclear but nursing has allowed me to see life through a different lens. From a young age, I knew I wanted to make an impact on our world, but I was never certain how I would accomplish this. That is until I turned 16 and a pulmonary embolism put my then girlfriend in the hospital. I watched passionately and curiously as the nurses used medical jargon with one another. They created an atmosphere most would consider impossible once taking the circumstances into account. I felt welcomed and taken care of even though I was only but a visitor. Not only was I filled with a deep urge to know more, but I was also struck with a stark sense of self. I saw myself in them. Compassionate, curious, hardworking, and above all else, heart led. Finally, my prayers had been answered. A profession where I am fueled with knowledge and perseverance to make a difference in others' lives. It was here that I knew my fate had been sealed to the nursing career.
From here I immediately began creating a plan for myself. I enrolled in a certified nurse assistant (CNA) program through my high school's integrated trade school. Here I would obtain 62 clinical hours, including 22 voluntary hours and build valuable lifelong connections with patients. All the while, I was able to maintain a 4.2 GPA, be involved in three different clubs, earn over 45 community volunteering hours, and work a part-time job. Managing this was not easy, though I was able to create a balance. My active engagement and work ethic has allowed me to efficiently navigate through my nursing degree and has helped me become a better student nurse.
As I began working as a young CNA I was quickly met with an abundance of genuine connections between my patients and me. It was everything I had ever hoped for and more. I got to go to work, learn something new each day, and come home knowing I made an impact on multiple people's lives. For example, a resident and I would converse regularly about her sons and grandchildren, in which she stated, " I haven't had a listening ear in ages”. This meant the world to me. The fact that I was able to make a resident feel like she was being heard by simply taking the time out of my day to talk about the people she loves. This put an everlasting stain on my will to forever provide a listening ear to all of my patients. It is moments like these that not only fuel my passion, but my purpose in pursuing nursing.
Although this profession has many remarkable attributes, its formidable hardships do not go unnoticed. Behind every compassionate act and clinical skill lies a person who is often running on little sleep, carrying emotional weight, and navigating the demands of a high-stakes environment. Amidst holding the hands of the dying and absorbing the pain of families, nurses continue to show up with strength and grace, even on the hardest days. This stands as something I attempt to represent in every moment as a CNA, student nurse, and human being.
All in all, if the nursing career has taught me anything, it's that no matter what, you show up for those around you. You become that listening ear, you become their hand to hold, and most importantly you become the heart behind the healing. This is something I want to be a part of forever. Not because it’s easy, but because the heart of nursing is built on resilience, compassion, and a relentless dedication to others.