My name is David Earl James Jr, it is linguistically basic, nor eye catching, but most notably non-racially identifiable. LeBron James unintentionally found a way to diversify this surname, never-the-less I received my name from Black parents systematically discriminated from birth. My father has humble beginnings, and tirelessly focused on having successful children unhindered by obstacles generated by America’s cultural insecurities. Growing with a “common name” benefitted me but I always wanted a unique name. Why couldn’t I have a “traditionally Black” name?
We all know the cliché statement, “Kid’s say the darndest things,” but children do not always speak comedy! “Your name isn’t even Black, you aren’t welcome at our table, you’re not allowed to play with them!” As an adult I find these statements trivial, but to a teenager these words were like arrows that stabbed painfully. Why doesn’t anyone accept me? This insecurity made me go by nicknames. I wanted to prove I was enough; I wanted acceptance from everyone who was Black, Indigenous, or Person of Color. My struggle changed when I lost my biggest inspiration.
David Earl James Sr left this earth on January 17, 2007. He spent 30 years of life serving in the Marine Corps and 52 years of his life serving his family. When he passed, I realized life was not about others acceptance. I needed to reframe what was important. My father grew up in a one room shack in the deep south. In his early life, he had eight other hungry siblings fighting off parasites, humbly accepting any work for money, and a single parent with a mental illness. He had to escape the cycle, so he joined the military, and selflessly helped his family escape such squalor. He always told me “Our name was necessary because America will pass judgement on you before it even has a chance to meet you; so, let’s not give them fodder.” I never truly internalized the significance of that statement until I no longer had him as a crutch to lean on.
After I graduated, I searched for mental stability and direction, so I joined the military to follow in my father’s footsteps. It is widespread practice, in the armed forces, to research a new individual prior to his or her arrival at assignments. My name and appearance incited offensive statements when I would arrive on new deployments like “I didn’t know you would be black, you act nothing how I thought you would, or wow you are so well spoken.” During my ten years in the military, I picked and chose my battles and I decided to smile my way through the underlying racism, and attempt understanding.
The years serving my country, inspired me to embrace my name and family’s struggles to provide the most opportunities in life. I am no longer reticent around my name and write Junior with no hesitation. Who knew that a family not far removed from slavery, attending inadequate public schooling, and statistically futureless; could produce a college graduate? Does my name define me? Is it purely a title my parents created to continue to provide chances so that I could obtain success? I do not know the answer to those questions. The only thing I know is David Earl James Jr. is my permanent birth name and I have thankfully made it this far into life. I am proud of it, and all its simplicity. If I have a son he will acquire the suffix of “III,” and hopefully I could be halfway as inspirational for him as my own father was for me.