Danielle Zeff
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The Change I'll Be In The World
As children, we are taught how to behave in various situations. At meals, we keep our elbows and knees below the table, don’t eat with our fingers, and avoid touching our hair. In school, we sit in our seats, raise our hands before speaking, and never talk back. At job interviews, we give a firm handshake, and eye contact is key. What we aren’t taught is how to adapt when we are torn from everything we’ve ever known. That’s exactly what I, along with hundreds of thousands of others, had to do when we were forcibly taken to a place we didn’t even know existed until we arrived. Some call it the troubled teen industry; others call it a treatment center. But no matter the label, it boils down to this: Your mom is not coming to get you. Say goodbye to holidays at home and brace yourself for a long list of rules.
You must remain at least an arm’s length from staff. You must ask permission to talk to peers, use the restroom, or even move from one chair to another. You can’t go to your room alone. A staff member must be present when you get food or water, available only at certain hours. Break any of these rules, and consequences range from writing apology letters to being forbidden from going outside, not being allowed to talk, or even not being able to close the door while using the restroom. We were even rated on our competency, with a score between 1 and 100 every week.
As you can imagine, this was not a welcoming environment, especially for kids brought there against their will. Naturally, we resisted the immense pressure and change we were suddenly thrust into, but the program didn’t accept that. After four months of adjusting to this strange and suffocating reality, I began to form bonds with the other kids. Since I had no family or friends from home, these new friends became everything to me. They supported me as I rebuilt myself, and they became a key part of my healing. I started addressing the root of my pain and made progress through the program.
Some of my friends still struggled deeply, facing neglect, physical restraint, and abandonment. The program, touted as the last hope for these kids, failed us by not providing the support we needed to stand back up and rebuild ourselves. I want to be the change in this industry, which falsely claims to ensure safety for kids but ultimately fails, robbing hundreds of thousands of families due to its profit-driven motives.
The industry lacks people who have experienced mental health struggles or been in similar programs. These programs lack empathy from staff; students feel trapped physically and emotionally, and they want to run—literally or mentally. When forced into a box, we feel the urge to resist. I experienced this firsthand and witnessed it for 19 months. Everyone deserves to feel safe, cared for, and accepted in order to open up, let alone heal. The name “troubled teen industry” reflects how the field’s corporate workings see us as less than, sending a message of belittlement and lack of empathy. This is exactly what I want to emphasize when I create my own program. I will focus on empathy, empowerment, and personalized, trauma-informed care with properly trained staff who understand how past abuse or instability can affect behavior. I will create a supportive therapeutic environment with small staff-to-student ratios to ensure personalized care, build trust, and provide a safe space for healing. A licensed therapist will always be available to lead groups or provide support when needed. Most importantly, we will focus on natural consequences, respectful discipline, positive reinforcement, and an aftercare plan.
I know I can be the change in this industry. Everyone deserves proper care during the most vulnerable times in their lives. They deserve what I never received. At Warren Wilson, I will study psychology to better understand why people behave the way they do, how decisions are shaped, and where harmful patterns stem from. By learning the roots of pain, I hope to be part of the healing process for individuals as they rebuild and grow in their new world.