Having a brother impacted by level 3 Autism has given me an early confrontation to mental health. Having friends who were struggling through high school, I witnessed mental health problems from the front line. It is not easy living with a mental disorder, whether it be Autism, depression, or anxiety, and seeing it play out with my friends has changed my outlook on life. My experience with mental health has shaped my goals and relationships and has dramatically impacted my understanding of the world around me.
As a kid, we always had a dream to work a certain job, be rich, and have fun. However, as we grew up those goals changed. They have become smaller, or obsolete amid the mental war being fought around us. Seeing my friends battling depression and loneliness and at one time being especially close to someone who dealt with crippling anxiety, I take a stand. Yes, I have my own goals for my future, but a new one has been added to the mix. A recent goal of mine has been to positively impact the life of anyone around me from the moment I meet them. Whether it be making them laugh within the first minute of talking to just a smile and a friendly look to a stranger on the bus, I make it a requirement to go out of my way to bring happiness to their lives. My coworker may be going through the loss of a family member and that opportunity to laugh was just what she needed to make it through the day. That stranger on the bus may have just been laid off and that smile reminded him that there is another chance. I do not know what others are going through, but I know that I can still make a difference.
Mental health has also impacted how I interact in relationships. I used to hang around people just to hang around people and I thought nothing of what they were going through; I just wanted to have fun. However, seeing now that people all around me are struggling, I realized that that was not a healthy lifestyle. With my friend groups, I make it very clear that I want to listen to their struggles and I want to help. I strive to be a light in their lives, whether it be by spreading a laugh or sharing a smile, or giving them genuine encouragement. There are people in this world who need a friend who will be that for them, and I never want to have a friend that I wasn’t there for.
With my perspective of relationships changed, I have begun to see the world differently. While yes, society is like a machine with multiple parts, society has needs, individual needs. We cannot impact the big issues like climate change, racism, or hunger if we do not solve the small critical ones first. Just like a fractured hammer is no good for driving in a nail, neither is a battered society good for sparking change. I look at the big issues we see today and instead of assigning blame or complaining about it, I trace the results to the root. Instead of analyzing the symptoms, I try to pinpoint the disease. Many of the issues like depression or racism boil down to how we treat other people. Facing mental health has shown me that how we treat other people truly does matter, and to truly incite change to society, we must first address the need of its people.
Mental health is no joke. It’s not fake news and it’s most certainly not negligible. A healthy world with defective parts does replace those parts or treat them as if they didn’t matter. Society needs to care for its people regardless of their struggles. We depend on people and my experience with mental health has impacted my goals, my relationships, and my view of the world. Mental health will always be around, but as long as there are people who will take the stand against it, it will never win.