There are people in our life that can help define one’s character and course for the future. Even at the age of just seventeen, I have been blessed to have someone in my life help shape me into a responsible adult. My dad, the one who adopted me when I was 5 ½ has helped instill my devotion towards family, my strength during challenging circumstances, and my desire to build and make things better. I started out life in foster care; moving around to 9 different homes before I even hit kindergarten. I came from a dysfunctional family that often abused harmful substances while I lay asleep in a crib. I only have snippets of memory from that turbulent time in my life; living in different types of bunk beds, switching day-cares, and birth visits at the county or the park. When I came to my forever home I had a list of labels attached to my name, a learning and speech IEP, and a few Spider-man toys.
My mom and dad worked for years to give me all that I had lost. They knew how much I needed to be brought up to speed with the rest of my peers. My dad and I built my first bike together so I could improve my balance. He quit his job when I entered middle school so that he could spend more time with me and my younger sister and brother. He came to every baseball game, swim meet, and awards assembly to support me in my goals. He created a better picture of family for me than I was given in my early years. In order to help me overcome the physical challenges I had come with, my parents enrolled me into a local swim team when I was only 7. Over the past decade I have become passionate about succeeding in the water, so much that I plan to swim in college.
June 19, 2021 was like any other Saturday in summer; I was at a swim meet. My mom had taken me to the pool early, while my dad stayed home with my sister. I was busy warming up when my mom received the call. My dad was being raced to the emergency room after suffering a cardiac arrest. I wish I had been at home that day. I wish I could have helped him like he has always helped me.. I didn’t even know what was going on until after I finished warming up. The other parents pulled me aside and told me; my teammates and I all held hands and prayed for my dad. I didn’t know then that that moment would strengthen me the way it did. My dad’s heart stopped 3 times that day. He lived in the ICU connected to tubes, IVs, and a ventilator for 27 days. Due to COVID restrictions, we weren’t allowed to see him. While my mother was by my dad’s bedside, I felt internal pressure to be the man of the house. I wanted to fill his shoes, but they were hard ones to fill. Being in-charge was difficult for me because I didn’t realize how much I had relied on my parents. During that first week, my brother and sister were experiencing anxiety about whether or not our dad was going to make it. I had to be brave and strong. Just a few weeks before this incident, I had gotten my drivers permit. My dad and I were building my first car. He is an expert at so many trades, that it was fun to learn about how to put the car I was going to drive together. The thought that my dad; the one who raised me as his own wouldn’t make it scared me. I couldn’t imagine going through my driver’s test, swim meets, graduation, going to the University of Alabama, or any part of life without him. Thankfully I didn’t have to go through that pain. Twenty-seven days after my dad fell, he came home. He was frail, needed help to do the simplest things, and had to remain on dialysis for a few months. Upon his return, I saw myself as more grown-up, more like him.
Two moments in my life, an adoption and a medical emergency, are part of my story. Both involve a man that I hope to be like one day. He always helps others, has many skills, and is dependable. He has helped define me and will pave the way for my successful future. Even now, a sophomore at the University of Alabama, am still grateful that he instilled responsibility and integrity in me. I would never have been able to even think about college without his help. I am studying political science with a goal to help influence our community to be better and excel.