My name is Crystal Maoga, and I was born to two Kenyan immigrants in Bayonne, New Jersey on May 17, 2005. I am their firstborn child, as my brother was born two years later in Texas, and my sisters (twins!) were born in 2012.
Growing up, my family and I moved quite a bit-- I was born in Bayonne, lived in Jersey City, moved to Dallas, Texas, moved back to New Jersey where we lived in Sayreville, moved to Perth Amboy while still attending school in Sayreville, moved to Washington, New Jersey, which was also the first time I transferred schools, moved to Maplewood, and finally, back to Washington, after my parents separated, and eventually divorced.
Whenever I tell people how much I moved as a kid, they tend to feel bad and ask how it has impacted me, but since it's something that I've been used to, I only ever really see the positives in it. I've been to a lot of places and have met a lot of people-- I was definitely a shy girl, so being exposed to different environments helped a lot with my social skills.
As a child, I always knew my parents' relationship was rocky. I grew up hearing the arguments and snarky comments they made about each other, and as the firstborn kid, I had a feeling that they were bound to divorce eventually. When they told my siblings and I that they were, I was sort of relieved. I wasn't going to miss the constant fighting. However, I didn't realize how negatively it would affect me. First and foremost, this happened during the COVID-19 pandemic, so I had to move towns and schools without saying a proper goodbye to some of my best friends that I have known since I was nine years old. Not only was I changing schools, I was adjusting to the new life of quarantine, online school, wearing masks, etc. I had been the new girl at school plenty of times, don't get me wrong, but it's different when you can't even socialize with other people. I felt isolated. I couldn't even sleep at night.
Then come junior year, when in person school made a comeback. I was super excited, I hated being in the house all day. I've always been a music oriented person-- the first time I ever sung on a stage was on my 7th birthday. Since then, I have joined my schools choirs, select choirs, a cappella groups, and musicals! I was ready to tap back into the artistic side of me again, and that I did. People may think that I'm dramatic for this, but the arts quite literally saved me during this time. There's a different type of joy and peace you find when you are pursuing something that you are passionate in.
During my senior year, I decided that music was something that I wanted to pursue as a career, so I decided to apply for colleges in my state that had music programs. I ended up deciding on Montclair State University as a Music Education Major (instrument-- voice!), in which my parents were not the happiest about. They were so unhappy that they did not want to help me pay, so I took a gap semester, worked full time, and paid for my first semester by myself. Here I am a year later, still enrolled & studying what I love! Life gets overwhelming, & you are going to be faced with unexpected obstacles. Your struggles do not define who you are. It's how you pick yourself up that matters.