My definition of a blended family might be a little bit different from yours. I live with both of my parents, who have been married for 23 years. I have a biological brother and an adopted sister. I have had more than twelve foster siblings over the past ten years. Even though only one of my foster siblings has been officially adopted into our family, we’re still pretty mixed up!
When I was four years old, I was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes. At that time, I had a biological brother who was two years old. My parents loved kids and knew that two wasn’t enough for them, but right after a T1D diagnosis, my parents decided more biological children weren’t the best fit for them, and fostering and adoption were the way to go.
I was seven when my first “sister” came into our family. She was only one year old, but I remember feeling so special when she’d choose to sit with me instead of my mom. “K” was such a happy little girl, and my parents had so hyped me up about how having foster siblings was such an honor and only special brothers got to do this job, that I was convinced life couldn’t get any better. Only a few short months after having “K” she went to live with a relative, and I remember we all just sat together on the couch and cried.
Fast forward a few months…I was now a big brother to three more kids! I was now eight years old, and my brother Caleb was six. We’d loved “K” so much, and we just knew having more siblings would be the best thing ever. Surprise! It wasn’t! This time, we had Jax, who was two, Jayden, who was three, and Kaylee, who was six, and life was rough. Whereas “K” was always so happy and sweet and cuddly, these three were wild and crazy and constantly getting into trouble, and I’ve never claimed to be an angel, so the five of us really pushed my mom’s buttons!
This cycle of kids coming in and out has repeated many times over the past ten years. Some kids were definitely easier to love than others, but I’m incredibly grateful to my parents for allowing us to see how foster care works, the good, the bad, and the ugly. One of the benefits of having so many younger siblings, I’ve always been the oldest, is that I am now the most patient brother on earth. Nothing rattles me, and I’m always calm under pressure: bloody noses, bring them on; spilled gallons of milk, no sweat; three-year-olds screaming because their hair isn’t turning purple, doesn’t bother me! Patience is my superpower, and combined with my over-the-top love of history, I’ve decided to become a high school history teacher.
Even though my idea of a blended family isn’t the stereotypical version, it’s still a big pitcher of chaos and love all mixed up.