I have seen people gaze into the abyss due to poor mental health, who were unable to then look away. For me, it is why I view mental health as important due to how deeply it affects how we feel, think, and act. Helping people with poor mental health is what I strive to aim my life towards as I navigate gaining my medical doctorate so that I may become a psychiatrist.
Following my why, I began to use the golden circle as described by Simon Sinek, which attributes the process of success to finding your why, discovering your how, and developing your what. In this, I have found multiple methods for tackling mental health for myself and the people around me. Most important for me has been maintaining social connections by doing a little bit more at the moment to incorporate these important relationships into my life. This can mean when making myself food, offering others to come with, or making enough for multiple people. This has greatly increased the strength of my relationships with others, which were often strained by my not making that extra step in reaching out to others. The great part of this method is that it snowballs, by facilitating an environment where I essentially enable people to more freely invite others out, I now am more readily asked if I want to go hang out with friends.
But this isn’t all I do, I also make sure to take time for myself. This is something I’ve struggled with in life, as I always feel I’m behind and need to catch up to some idea of what I should already be doing. A simple song that has helped me, which I like to share with others who have similar issues, is Everything Stays. It's a song from one of my favorite comfort shows, Adventure Time, and its message is that everything is going to change, things might get discolored, and we may not even recognize things from our past, but it's always right there where we left it. It's changed, even if it's ever so slightly, but at its core, it's the same. I’ve taken this as acceptance to not overburden myself trying to maximize every opportunity. As an example, if I want to go read a book, but I need to do some more work so I can stay ahead, that work isn’t going anywhere. I can come back the next day with a refreshed attitude and get it done. Even if I might lose 5 points for being late, it's still going to be okay to take that extra time for myself.
Ultimately, these are just some of the ways I help self-regulate my mental health, and they do help, but as a college student, I’ve struggled with academic achievement and the stress of finances. Because of this, I have gone to therapy, and regularly go to affinity groups and check in with friends to ensure I get the support and help I need. As much as I enjoy throwing myself into work and helping others, hence my career path, it's important to slow down and appreciate ourselves for who we are, and there is always one more way to do that, so to share my personal goal, try new things and take what works.