My family is the traditional family, mom, dad, sister, myself, and 3 dogs. We live in a suburban community. Both my parents grew up underprivileged and worked very hard to achieve their career goals. They support my sister and me in every way possible to help us achieve our goals.
My end career goal is to become an orthodontist. To obtain this career goal I am currently interested in obtaining my Biology major. I would love to attend Howard University. The main obstacle between me attending Howard is the cost. I am determined to fill the gap in costs through hard work, dedication, and persistence. Following completion of undergraduate school, I plan to apply for dental school and I want to apply for the Health Professions Scholarship Program with one of the military branches. I have not decided which branch I want to commit to, but serving my country is something I would like to do as well. Once I complete my commitment, I plan to pursue my end goal of becoming an orthodontist. I hope to have my practice to help under-served communities and give others confidence through their smiles.
On the outside looking in our family seems "normal" and without much struggle. However, this seemed to be true until I entered high school. In the past few years, we have all been impacted by the disease of addiction. The times we faced during active addiction have shaped me into the person I am today. Surprisingly it has motivated me in many positive ways. My father is a recovering addict, and he struggled with it most during his freshman and sophomore years. Additionally, my father has bipolar disorder and ADHD, and during those years he attempted suicide twice. Because he was not in a good state, he went to rehab twice during my freshman year. He was gone for about two to three months, and he couldn’t call or contact my family besides my mother. My father missed all of my cross country meets except the last freshman year, and it was hard on me, especially since I had no contact with him. Because he was gone, we faced financial difficulties. My mother had to apply for financial aid to help pay for my schooling since I attend a private school. When my father came back at the end of the first semester, things seemed to get better. Sophomore year rolled around, and my father relapsed and had to go back to rehab again for the same amount of time. This time around, it was even harder. I was taking school more seriously, and I felt very stressed out. My mother was also stressed because she had to take me to school, which is 22 miles away from where we live. Additionally, my sister does dance, has a learning disability, and has ADHD. Our closest family members live 3 hours away. My mother had to take her to school, provide extra help with school due to her learning disability, and still go to work. Since my father was gone, my mother had me get my permit the day I turned fifteen. I would drive every time I was in the car with my mother to practice. Our situation was so tough that we applied for a hardship license and were successful. I started driving on my own legally at 15 to school, to get food, to help take my sister to her activities, and to practice. I was helping my mother out and still had to maintain school, sports, and grades. I dealt with this alone because only our family knew what we were going through. Eventually, my father came back and has been sober for over a year and a half.
The reason I say my immediate family has impacted me most is because I realized that despite circumstances we can push through. I did not know what I was capable of achieving. My mother and her dedication and commitment to supporting my father while very sick and continuing to do her best to not disrupt our lives has been a miracle to see. It has motivated me to be the best person I can be. My father and his commitment to recovery for himself and our family has also been a miracle to see. I do not intend this to be a sad story but a story of VICTORY. That no matter what life throws at me I can overcome and be whoever God has called me to be and whatever my heart desires.
I understand that although things are going well now, life can send you circumstances we are not expecting and seem impossible to overcome during this time. I will continue to strive to become the best version of myself and to love others in the process.
"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins." - 1 Peter 4:8