There was a moment in my life when I truly believed I would not survive. I was a teenager in foster care, angry at God, angry at the world, and angry at myself for things that were never my fault. I had grown up in a violent, chaotic, abusive home with parents battling addiction. My childhood was filled with fear, instability, and moments where I prayed simply to feel safe for one night. When I entered foster care, I thought I had escaped the danger, but a different kind of pain began, one that made me feel unseen, unheard, and completely alone.
At one point, I was placed in a group home where the staff decided that I needed to be sent to a lockdown facility in Texas because I had set the bulletin board on fire in the school, and this was a deserved punishment for me. I was a city girl, already traumatized, already fighting to hold onto any sense of control, and the idea of being transported far away to a restrictive environment broke something inside me. I remember feeling terrified that this would be the end of my future, that I would disappear into another system that didn’t understand me.
It was during this time that my relationship with God shifted. I was angry with Him for the life I had been given. I couldn’t understand why He allowed me to suffer, why my parents struggled with addiction, why abuse was my daily reality. I blamed Him for the trauma I carried. But even in my anger, even when I didn’t want to pray, there was always a small part of me that believed He was real. I held onto that tiny sliver of faith even when everything else felt too heavy.
One night in the group home, after hearing the decision about the lockdown facility, something inside me broke open. I remember sitting on the edge of the bed, overwhelmed with fear, and saying out loud, “God, I need You. If you’re real, help me. Please don’t let this be my life.” It was not a pretty prayer. It was not eloquent or spiritual. It was desperate. But God met me there, in the raw, messy, angry, broken place.
From that moment, something shifted. I didn’t suddenly have all the answers, but I began to feel a sense of hope. I felt God remind me that He loved me, that He saw me, and that no matter how far I had been taken from home, physically or emotionally, He would not leave me. It was the first time I felt held by something bigger than my pain.
Shortly after, the plan to send me to the lockdown facility changed. To this day, I know that was God intervening. It wasn’t luck or coincidence. It was His way of showing me that He had a purpose for my life beyond the trauma I endured.
Over time, my faith carried me through depression, confusion, and self-doubt. I watched God help me accomplish things I never believed I could do, finishing school, building a career, becoming a mother, and eventually stepping into my calling to help others heal from trauma. Faith didn’t erase what I lived through, but it gave meaning to the pain. It turned survival into purpose.
The moment I thought I would lose everything became the moment I found the God who never lost sight of me. That season in foster care didn’t break me. It built the foundation of the woman I would become.