Como Aguantar Con Gracia: The Story of a Mexican Family
One childhood memory impressed me more than any other: Tia Monica dropping off her children at school, driving an hour to care for my Abuelos in their home, and then driving an hour home to meet her children after school. Though one might suggest someone else could check in on my Abuelos so Tia Monica could pursue other endeavors, they were her endeavors. The world tells us to measure the successful individual as “creating themselves” and prioritizing their desires, economic gains, and public image. However, being raised in a Mexican family of eight has shown me that individuals must be taught about the indispensable parts of themselves from someone else in order to nourish those aspects. This is what I call, “familia”.
“Familia” is an unbreakable organization run by abuelos, papas, hermanos, tíos y primos who teach you the prerequisite of becoming a successful individual is “como aguantar con gracia”: graceful resilience. Though there are many ways to accomplish this, my own family has taught me three: industry, celebrating hard work, and putting others first.
In a Mexican family, industry is fostered at an early age and nourished over time. My Abuelo often called our home “the workshop” because of the industry represented in educating children, preparing family meals, and supporting those leaving the house for work or school. In the bright blue painted clay-walled home of my Abuelos’ home, industry also included cultivating avocados and limes in the garden to enhance every meal. In industry, there is a rhythm or craft present in every task. With this example, at the sweet age of thirteen, I started my own small business and sold hundreds of gourmet cupcakes baked in our kitchen. Industry and quality of workmanship are the foundations of Hispanic craftsmanship. Beauty, art, color and care are implicit everywhere. This leads to the second principle: work hard and celebrate.
Mi papa asserts that, “God helps those who wake up early.” Thus, once in high school, my parents enrolled me in an online class at 5:30 a.m. so I could participate in speech and debate. Though not happy to be an early bird, my hard work was eventually recognized, and one late night, I arrived home with the trophy. My family eagerly awaited to congratulate me…with a container of mint ice cream. Similarly, we rarely leave a gathering before the cake is cut, because of the importance of taking the time to celebrate others. This leads me to a final reflection: others first.
Studies show that, despite facing greater socioeconomic disadvantages, Hispanics tend to live longer by several years compared to the average American. Commonly, our most valuable commodities are not our cars, phones, finances, or degrees but the people around us, from friends to strangers. The gift of self is something to aspire to. Recently, my uncle contracted sepsis. His phone constantly vibrated, receiving over 200 messages asking, “What can we do for Luis?” Friends and family offered to donate blood on his behalf because my uncle, a caregiver himself, has always prioritized others as his true profession.
A true education includes both giving and receiving. I have received this rich heritage. To seek to develop my mind and learn skills through a college education, I can, in turn, give back to others and become even more myself. I am grateful for the foundation exemplified in my familia and culture that prepared me to pursue higher education. I am also grateful to anticipate returning home to share in sorrows, joys, and, hopefully, a taste of Abuela’s sopes.