On the surface, my story looks pretty traditional as an only child in a close-knit family. In 2020, as the world was navigating the new normal of COVID and isolation, I was thrown a colossal boulder. I was 12 years old. My dad was ill, so my mom took him for tests and said they would return soon. She returned alone because they wanted to watch him overnight. She called my grandparents, and they immediately got in the car and set out on the 14-hour journey from Mississippi to Maryland. In just six days, he had passed away from a gastrointestinal infection and sepsis. My world as I knew it was over.
I wasn't just a kid of a single mom. I was a kid who lost her rock. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety, and struggled to navigate life in isolation without the cornerstone of my home. My anxiety worsened following his death, and the lockdown and virtual school exacerbated my ADHD. Life was getting infinitely more difficult every day. I wondered if I would make it out of middle school, let alone make it through life.
A year later, toward the end of my 8th-grade year, my mom and I moved to Mississippi to be closer to her family. I was still reeling from the most difficult time in my life and was uprooted to a completely different part of the country to begin high school. During that 14-hour journey, I had a lot of time to think about how I would start my high school career and how I would continue my life into adulthood. I chose not to be a victim; I would not use my tragedy as a crutch when things were hard, and I would use my experience to make life better for others, as well as for myself.
At my new school, I joined the band as a trumpet player. Going from a small 30-piece marching band at what would have been my Maryland high school to a 175-member band in Mississippi was in itself daunting. Still, I pushed myself further out of my comfort zone by auditioning for and becoming drum major, and by joining the indoor percussion group as a cymbal player. Our indoor group competed in the international indoor percussion competition in Ohio, where we placed 7th overall, and the marching band, under my leadership, placed 5th in the state championship.
I put myself out there in other ways as well. I performed in both school and community theater productions, joined my church praise team, and began volunteering with Habitat for Humanity and our local homeless shelter. I wanted not only to exist, but to thrive and succeed in whatever I tried. I took four AP/Dual Credit classes and excelled in the classroom. I developed deep friendships over the course of my four years in high school and approached social situations with caution, courage, and resilience.
I wanted to leave my footprint on my new hometown in a more substantial and meaningful way. I wanted to throw myself into a need and take steps to address it. Growing up outside Washington, DC, homelessness and hunger were ever-present. My family and I volunteered when I was young by cooking and serving dinner twice a month at a local homeless shelter in Maryland. Our church participated in a Rise Against Hunger food packing event, packing meals for children in developing countries. After moving to Mississippi, I quickly learned that food insecurity does not only exist in large cities and third-world countries - it is everywhere.
During my junior year of high school, I started a social awareness platform called Healing Hunger. I wanted to make a difference in my community and globally to decrease food insecurity. My first project was organizing a Rise Against Hunger meal-packing event - the first in my new city. I reached out to the organization, confirmed a date, and went to work. I organized fundraisers, designed a Healing Hunger t-shirt, planned and promoted a benefit concert, solicited sponsors, and spoke on our local news station to generate interest and awareness. In just 6 months, I raised over $9,000, solicited over 150 volunteers from various organizations across my community, and oversaw a meal-packing event that packed 20,000 meals in just 2 hours. I was satisfied, but not finished.
My next project would be local. I was aware that the local shelter required residents to leave during the day, forcing them to beg or go without. I continued raising money and awareness for my platform by selling my t-shirts and organizing another benefit concert. Over several months, I raised over $3000 and used that money to purchase healthy, nonperishable snacks. I got my friends together several times to create about 500 snack boxes for the shelter. Having these boxes when they left the shelter each day allowed them to eat nutritious food without begging.
I have always been a community-oriented person, and giving back to my new community with compassion and integrity has given me a sense of purpose and belonging. I look forward to finding more ways to help those around me who need it most.
I have been able to succeed in new and challenging situations because of the help I received after my dad passed away. My therapist helped me work through my anxiety and grief so I could do good, rather than use it as an excuse to shut down. She showed compassion and understanding and gave me the tools I needed to push beyond my sadness. She also motivated me to continue her work for others like me. I am currently a double major in neuroscience and psychology, and I intend to continue to graduate school to become a clinical psychologist and help children and teens who struggle with mental health and trauma. My legacy will be showing children like me that there are people in their corner who have been through trauma and made it successfully to the other side.