"You make me want to kill myself!"
How can this phrase's literal meaning be so life shattering, but is still considered to be humorous to others? Someone could either say this phrase in response to a harmless joke, as a retaliation to an argument. Could they really mean it? I started asking myself this same question when I received the heartbreaking news that my cousin beacme a victim of suicide.
My cousin was a smart kid. I wouldn't say that he was over the top book smart, but he always seemed to have an answer for every problem. He even wrote a letter to NASA at 13 years old to prove that life could scientifically be sustained on Mars. He was always surrounded by his friends and teammates, with the same goofy grin plastered across his face. Like most teenage boys, he was known to be a prankster. He would do anything for attention, and I have now come to realize this may have been a negative contributing factor to his mental health.
Mental health is not a hoax like many old timers say, and I have found that it is very difficult to see if someone is struggling unless you are actively aware. Being so young, I never realized how much he was struggling. He was acting like the same goofy cousin I had known my entire life. I kick myself for being too young to realize how strong the storm was that must have been brewing in his mind for him to be even thinking of self harm.
Now, I'm sure everyone would agree that teenagers and their parents often clash. My cousin had gotten into some trouble and gotten yet another speeding ticket. My uncle and my cousin seemed to argue for hours, shouting profanities back and forth at each other. I noticed my cousin came storming out of the room, furious. Before he slammed his bedroom door, he said those bone-chilling words that still linger with me today. Facing my uncle, he screamed, "You make me want to kill myself!" This event was a couple years before I lost my cousin to his mental health battle, and I didn't know at the time the power those words held. Nearly 60 million, or 1 in 5 people, face the day-to-day reality of living with a mental health condition.
Mental health is very important to me not only as a human, but also as a student. After I lost my cousin, my eyes were opened. I realized that students in my own school, and around the world were struggling. I believed that I could make a difference in the lives of these people. My community and I helped Ryan Nicholls organize the Aidan Richard Hyslop Memorial 5k in Bow, New Hampshire as his senior capstone project. The run was a success, and over 100 people attended. There was a table set up with information about mental health and how to support someone who may be struggling. All profit was donated by Ryan Nicholls to NAMI, which is the National Alliance on Mental Illness.
Often, the reason for suicide and reasons for negative mental well being remains unanswered. I am glad that I was able to help alongside the community and spread awareness of mental health. The years have passed since my cousin lost his battle, but I pray that he is in a safer and a happier place. I will always wear my green ribbon advocating for mental health, and do all I can to spread awareness to make the world a better place.