Integration is everything. My varied and challenged background fuels my commitment to advocate for marginalized communities, address healthcare inequities, and foster compassion and equity in my future practice as a nurse. Integration of the lessons from my life has been key to shaping me into the thoughtful, resilient, and empathetic person I am today, though this outcome was not always assured.
At 14, my mother left me to start a new life in the Caribbean. By the time I began college at 17, she had moved to the Dominican Republic full time. My father, a distant presence on the East Coast, was enmeshed in his own not-yet-diagnosed AuDHD life, seemingly unconcerned. During these critical formative years, I had no family, no mentorship, no guidance, and no sense of how to find these things in life. I also had no money.
My mother breezed into and out of my life at the most convenient times… for her. After a devastating car accident early in my undergraduate career, she lied to me and invested my settlement money in a piece of land she desired in another country. During my master’s studies, she visited me between free-spirited travels, fell ill, and was hospitalized with Dengue Hemorrhagic Shock. She mercifully recovered, but the stress forced me to drop classes and make other life choices that undermined my academic career and damaged my self-worth for years. And then she left again. Soon after my son’s birth, when other people’s mothers doted and helped, she was sent to federal prison for 20 months for defrauding the United States Social Security Administration.
As a result of my mother’s choices, at no point in my life have I experienced freedom from economic adversity. Though I often tricked myself into believing I was close as I climbed onto rafts of opportunity that I worked tirelessly to achieve, these lifeboats representing career and security capsized in the wake of national economic storms brought on by world events. Lacking mooring with family, I was left to weather storms of uncertainty alone. My emerging adulthood was marked by upheaval and insecurity. And even though I repeatedly build remarkable ships from reclaimed wood and ingenuity to carry me through, my economic insecurity persists to this day.
Alone and lost during critical junctures, cognitive dissonance often led me to choose the clearest path, even if it didn’t serve long-term goals. Raised on the extreme edges of 1960s-era countercultural ideals, my involvement in “The System” felt like landing on a populated Jupiter and trying to acculturate to an alien civilization. Making money and saving for the future were not factors for life choices; in fact, they were scorned. With a limited model for a successful life based in American culture to aspire to, I lacked a practical vision for my adulthood.
While raising myself through life’s many challenges and growing into the fully realized person I am today, I gave birth to my son, a transformative experience that instilled in me further qualities of humility, grace, and perseverance. These traits are essential for fostering effective communication and nurturing strong relationships.
Through my pursuit of nursing education, I aspire to model everything I lacked—guidance, stability, and opportunity. I plan to work in acute care settings while advancing toward a career as an advanced practice nurse. I am especially drawn to managing chronic pain, addressing complex health needs, and increasing access to care for underserved communities. I want to show my son—and my patients—that a lifelong commitment to service can overcome multigenerational inequities, cultivate emotional intelligence, and lead to a wholehearted, purposeful life.
Integration is everything.