Attending a higher education institution will facilitate the core principles I believe are most essential to what I hope to achieve in the future. My future career field will require me to embody compassion, integrity, empathy, respect, fairness, and responsibility, because the past eighteen years of my life have given me experiences that scream, “Either take the chance or risk watching someone else seize the opportunity.” I was forced to experience the long arm of justice in relation to the murder of my father when I was ten years old, which is why I will be a Sociology/ Political Science major at Tuskegee University this Fall.
“Never let someone steal your light because that is the one thing you were born with and the main thing that will draw and destroy darkness.” My motto was fostered out of the anger, pain, and guilt I felt during and after his death. I carried the guilt of a choice I had nothing to do with, and the weight of that world was smothering my future's true potential.
I have a younger brother and want to, no, I am going to be the example of the man he can see as a map to chart his path to success. Discovering his own identity frees him from the darkness of this world. I know that sounds impossible, but I want to fight for children and families who are left without access to impactful therapu and closure. I want to not only fight for justice but also create a model of programs that truly understand the weight of the trauma, anger, and fear that a senseless murder leaves behind.
Life inspires me; it is not promised, so what I do now is the foundation for who I become and what I create. During those years, I felt lost, hurt, and confused. I lost focus, abandoned my passion for sports, and fell behind academically. I resisted any help offered due to fear of further pain or facing something worse. Those difficult transitions in my life posed unique challenges, and I am grateful for my family's support. Listening to and watching them is helping me to transform my grief into growth and my challenges into catalysts for positive changes in my life.
They have encouraged me to embrace my faith and continue allowing gratitude to flow in the space where fear and anger once resided. I am not the only person who has suffered trauma, but I do have a foundation that surrounds our family.
Life provided the tools that were necessary for me to create change and impact individuals who are “forgotten or disregarded because their resilience is just that resilient.
I plan to embody these same core principles in both my educational pursuits and interactions with others. First, I was raised in a single-parent household with a strong grandmother. Kind of typical, right? And my faith requires me to know God more deeply, love others intentionally, and serve my community. But, I have a responsibility to be more than the person life was trying to force me to be. I must be a light in the darkness, affecting other children who mirror my brother and me.
I am becoming who I needed to be and creating the community I needed during those darkest moments. In my educational pursuits and interactions with others, I strive to encourage everyone to see themselves and their situations as building blocks rather than stumbling blocks. The choices that affected my life were not my own, but they did not destroy my purpose.
I am reminded that to become a man who understands that I set the bar high, not by my strength alone, but that it is attainable because I have God, my faith, family, and a church that not only believes in me but also prays and supports me. I respect others who have striven for excellence, but I eventually want to design a scholarship for those who do not fit the demographic.
It will be an opportunity that not only supports their educational goals but also provides continuous learning for the community and the individuals I can impact, as well as ongoing emotional and spiritual therapy throughout their educational journey and life.