As someone who is studying Psychology with a minor in Religious Studies, I've come to find joy in studying the relationship between human behavior and human belief systems, and how the two connect to provide a sense of identity, purpose, and meaning to us as humans. Through my personal faith in Jesus Christ, I've come to enjoy helping others find an identity that eliminates insecurity, especially in a culture that pulls from human drive for purpose and meaning and highlights things like comparison, social media, relationships, money, appearance, status, achievement, and other things to help define worth. However, these things don't provide a stable identity, because they can be removed, taken away, lost, or have varying meanings based on the setting and life's circumstances.
My experiences with mental health have shaped my understanding of the world by showing me how deeply people desire identity, purpose, meaning, and connection. In a culture filled with comparison and insecurity, many people are searching for worth in things that constantly change. Technology, for example, has created incredible opportunities for communication, learning, and innovation, but it has also contributed to a culture where people can easily base their worth on social media, comparison, appearance, status, relationships, or achievement. These things may provide temporary confidence, but they cannot provide lasting identity because they constantly change. In some ways, people are becoming more digitally connected while simultaneously feeling more personally isolated and alone.
Because of this, I have come to value authentic human connection. I believe authentic human connection comes from bonding with others over our differences. I believe authentic human connection is strengthened when we create spaces where people feel safe being fully known rather than merely perceived. Through my experiences working and living alongside students with intellectual disabilities through the ClemsonLIFE program, friends and family, and other mentorship settings, I have learned that every individual experiences the world differently and requires intentional care, empathy, and understanding. Those relationships taught me that meaningful connections are not built through generalized solutions or surface-level interaction, but through listening, patience, humility, and simple presence.
Valuing depth and personal connections versus offering something that may seem to help everyone allows us to understand each person's background and what may influence their behavior and struggles. Through ClemsonLIFE, I learned that someone with Down syndrome, autism, or Fragile X may behave differently and have different struggles, so each person requires special care. When I started working with ClemsonLIFE, I had never worked with students with intellectual disabilities before. Through serving as an ILA, I've gotten to help and serve a different community of people, but this required me to adapt, be more patient, and really lean on God for help rather than my own knowledge from the past in order to lead well.
These experiences have also shaped my relationships. One of the most meaningful lessons I've learned is that leading well first comes with serving well. I believe this comes from first listening. A great fruit of the Spirit for this is patience, something I've grown in tremendously from working with ClemsonLIFE. Instead of assuming what people need, I have learned the importance of understanding their background, struggles, and experiences. I have seen in my life that the strongest areas of growth I've had, outside of personal time with Jesus, have been from personal interactions in small groups, mentors, and community.
This understanding was shaped by people who invested in me. Someone who really helped me blossom as a Christian is one of my best friends, Ezra, who helped me grow in levels of understanding and living out being a disciple of Christ. My mom has been a great source of wisdom for me throughout my life, teaching me things like manners, basic etiquette, and putting me in mentorship programs to help sharpen my skillset. Through these relationships, I learned that wisdom comes from others and is passed down to others. The same wisdom I've learned, I would love to pass on to others.
My experiences with mental health have also shaped my goals. As I've grown from a desire to help people generally to a deeper idea of impacting people on an individual level, I have become passionate about serving others through both ministry and mental health. Pursuing a degree in Psychology with a minor in Religious Studies has allowed me to study human behavior, identity, purpose, and meaning while also incorporating my faith into my work and service. Through studying Psychology and tying it in with my faith in Jesus, I've been able to put this into practice through working and living with students with intellectual disabilities, friends and family, and anywhere I can on my journey to become a counselor, pastor, and mental health advisor.
As I've grown from reading the verse of the day to spending time with God, taking classes, reading the Bible with other students, and serving others, I've learned the true importance of serving and loving like Jesus. This requires putting aside our differences and viewing everyone as simply human and in need of care, understanding, and love. I believe having empathy to connect with humans and celebrate differences rather than attacking them allows for a safer space for people to not only be themselves and be open, but share this same empathy, love, humility, and understanding with others.
Ultimately, my experiences with mental health have shaped my understanding that people need more than information, achievement, status, or performance. They need identity, purpose, meaning, empathy, community, and genuine human connection. They need people who are willing to listen, serve, understand, and care. Through serving others, studying Psychology, growing in my faith, and working with students through ClemsonLIFE, I have developed a passion for helping people find these things in their own lives. This is why I hope to continue serving others through ministry, mental health, and working with youth, helping people feel seen, understood, and cared for while building meaningful connections that can positively impact their lives.