There is a kind of life that so few people live it has essentially disappeared. These people are of the utmost quality and become the most intriguing people who have ever stepped foot in any building. Daniel Spray is possibly one of the most interesting people you will ever meet, at least on the inside. He was one of those people who managed to completely command a room full of people whom he had absolutely no connection to yet befriend all of those same people. Dan Spray never spoke his mind until the thought was able to come to such a point of maturity that every syllable of his plans would resonate with the artist just as much as the practical businessman. He is a man who built everything in his life from the ground up, the most humble beginnings to the highest forms of achievement yet his humility brings all arrogant thoughts to a close. This selfless hard-working man taught me everything from flying an airplane to riding a bike. My father Dan Spray taught me how to live my life, he taught me how to succeed, and most importantly he taught me how to work.
My father has a fascinating story, he came to Norfolk broke, born to poor parents with an ACT score so low the only credit he received was because he put his name on it. Barely scraping by an Associates' degree he began working at a small internet company in town, as a garbage boy. Until one day he stole a book on system installations and began reading, pretty soon he was able to lead the department in the subject. Soon after that, he taught himself sales, internet services, and computer code. He slowly built his way up through the company until he was able to buy it from the current owners. The years that followed consisted of building that small Norfolk company into the towering business that now runs corporations in 48 states and 13 countries, not counting some of the biggest names in LA to DC. All while building an impressive portfolio of buildings and property that spans just as many states. But these are not his story, my father carries with him a much greater burden. This is not why I respect my father.
My father is a teacher, he taught me to respect people. From midnight to 3 AM you could hear him on the phone with clients, and most of the time it wasn’t the important ones. He valued people, so he gave them his most valuable asset, himself. He alone personally spans across more committees and community positions than most people know how to name. From local to state to national committees my father, as soon as he was in the position to do so, began to give back. He built himself into something greater than his business. “It’s always about the people,” rang true in every area of his life, and something he frequently says.
None of this came easy, severe ADHD and almost flunking out of school, you would never suspect Daniel Spray to be anyone worth mentioning in the years to come from his adolescence. But he did it. Building something from literally nothing he learned thousands of valuable lessons about building businesses, relationships, and a legacy. He taught me the painstaking process of flying an airplane, the mastery it took to hold the yoke steady as the giant metal bird flew hundreds of miles per hour through the air. He taught me patience to receive what I wanted and action to take what I needed.
My father was and is a brilliant man. He built 17 different businesses to his name and thousands more clients and buildings. But at the very core of his being, he is just a father, providing for his family. He is just a husband, coming home to his wife. He is just a community worker, with the face of a businessman. My father taught me what was really important, something that doesn’t get taught very often, and something we all need to be reassured of.