My name is Becky Jolly. I am a 46-year-old single mother of four children, three living and one who left too soon at age 24 to a car accident in 2020. She is my oldest child, the oldest daughter of the girls. My best friend, my better half, my sister and sometimes she even played the role of my parent. Life as I knew it felt over and done with. Four years later, although most days still feel as if no life is left for me, it turns out that aside from my brokenness, I still have three living little humans to look after. One day I woke up and decided to make a change in myself and my life and make sure these other children had something worth fighting for in life.
Addiction has sadly been a part of our lives for a very long time and in many aspects. I am a recovering addict, as was my oldest. She had been clean and living her best life when she was taken from us as was I. My next to the oldest, a girl who is now 24, is in the middle of what I hope is the worst part of her battle with the disease. What better way to honor my oldest baby than by furthering my education and gaining the knowledge to not only someday help my own family but many other addicts and the ones who love them who may need help in understanding why their loved ones cannot seem to "love them enough" to simply quit the drug.
My goal in the decision to return to school as a whole is to help anyone I can come in contact with who is suffering in any way from the effects (no matter how small or insignificant they may seem) of addiction. Even if it is an employer, who may have an employee that they carry the burden of empathy for and need someone to talk to. Or maybe a teacher who notices a student showing signs of irregular behavior that mimics addiction behavior patterns and they are searching for someone to reach out to without harming that student's reputation or child services or the school getting involved. Or even so much as the gas station attendant who has a customer who comes daily to get their alcohol fixed who sometimes may be cruel due to being drunk, but when sober, they are most loving and respectful. That gas station worker, though it seems so insignificant to others, is most definitely affected by that alcoholic's addiction, and maybe after weeks, months, or years of daily interactions, that person needs someone to talk through those feelings with. The point is my overall goal is to help any and all I can touch with addiction in any way. I also want to honor my child by first returning to school; she would simply be giggling out rainbows at that thought. Second, I want to leave my children knowing they someday can stand with heads held high and, upon hearing my name be able to proudly say, "Yes, that woman on that poster for the rehabilitation center, the counselor you're referring to, the woman you read about who started that program, that woman is My Mother". Knowing the possibilities that this education is going to give my family and me is the greatest feeling. Lastly, I want to leave my children with a legacy worth carrying on for them and the generations to come after them. 100 years from now I want to have made an historical difference in addiction. That is my dream, and with this college education and my dedication to my daughter, that dream is more than possible.
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