Many sports fanatics make jokes about how it sometimes feels as if certain players play as if they were just pulled off of the street, how it almost seems as if they had no prior experience before stepping up to the field. I never laugh at these jokes because that was essentially my exact experience with the sport of bowling. It sounds, for lack of a better description, a little inconsequential to many people when I tell this story, and that is part of the reason it was so hard to overcome in the first place.
I have never been athletic, nor have I been interested in sports in general, but in freshman year, I was happy to try bowling. Unfortunately though, despite having no experience, I was automatically placed on the varsity team because there were not enough girls in the program for anything else. Day after day, practice after practice, it became increasingly more difficult to pretend that it wasn’t affecting me to bowl alongside four other girls who had done this for years before this point. I was doing horribly both in the game, and in my head, and despite my coaches’ best efforts, I had barely improved before the first game of the season came around.
I sometimes ponder that first game. I got a score of 68. About 52 pins behind the girl I was up against and just around 65 pins behind the second lowest score on my own team. I am not exaggerating when I say that I cried hard that night. My mental health only went down after that moment. I stopped caring about the sport, I became more closed off from my friends, and I was just generally uninterested in things that used to bring me joy. At the time, I didn’t know how bad I had it, but looking back on it, I think I may have been truly depressed. However, I am proud to say I improved. I looked inside myself and I said “what can I do to make this better?” And I put immense time into trying to figure out what it is I truly needed to thrive.
It took effort but I eventually got out of this slump and learned a valuable lesson about myself that I apply to everything today, from my education to my relationships. Sometimes, you just need to step back and examine your priorities in the bigger picture. My failures don't define my self-worth. When I go bowling and miss a strike; it doesn't mean I'm a bad bowler or a failure, it just shows that I have room to improve and learn. Separating my self-worth from my mistakes has helped me grow more confident and resilient, knowing that each setback is just a stepping stone to success.
This outlook significantly enhanced my educational journey and I want to use it to positively impact my community too. When you view mistakes as opportunities for growth rather than reflections of your value, you become more open to learning and taking risks. Just like in bowling, getting a lower score than everyone else doesn’t make you any worse than them; it’s simply a difference in your skill sets. This mindset fosters resilience and a growth mindset which are essential traits for academic success. Just because I struggled in order to learn these lessons, doesn't mean others have to, so as I continue to grow and succeed, I can share these experiences and insights with others, inspiring and uplifting my community to embrace challenges and strive for continuous improvement.