Two people have changed the course of my life, and I met them both when I was five.
We moved to Mississippi when I was four for my dad's job. We lived in a small town and most of the people we knew were transplants like us, all working at a research facility there. The day we moved in a family with four kids was at our door helping us. I was immediately attached to their three daughters who were 11, 12, and 13. But, being the oldest daughter myself, I latched onto Afton, the eldest of the four kids. Her family became our family away from home. We spent almost every day together with our moms taking turns making dinner, our dads helping the older kids with homework, and me following Afton around everywhere I went. She became the big sister I had always wanted. Even after we left Mississippi, she and I talked often. She wrote me letters, encouraged me to audition for my first musical, and she played dress-up with me when we visited them in Mississippi. In 2013, at age 16, Afton was diagnosed with Ewing's Sarcoma. She was given a week to live. I couldn't believe this girl -- my hero, my role model, my friend -- was dying. Afton miraculously lived for 367 more days. She battled her disease, reached out to other kids fighting cancer and gave them hope, and she still completed all of her classes and graduated high school at the top of her class. In her pain and her struggle, she made the conscious choice to live.
Living Afton Strong has become a guiding principle in my life. In those moments when I think things are too hard, when I want to give up, or when I feel sorry for myself, I remember her. I remember her fighting spirit, I remember her wit and intelligence, and I remember how many opportunities she was robbed of by cancer, and I resolved to fight in her honor. I don't allow myself to give up and I try to appreciate my many opportunities because of her. My perspective on life has changed. And my desire to love like her has increased.
The same year I met Afton, I met MJ. We were seated next to each other in kindergarten. MJ has Down Syndrome and I was blessed with the chance to help him in school. We became fast friends. After the first week of school, I came home and told my mom when I grew up I was going to work with kids with Special Needs. I have never wavered in that decision. When we moved away from Mississippi, my first friend in Arizona was Alex, another sweet boy with Down Syndrome. Through his family, I have had the opportunity to become immersed in the Special Needs community in my town. I assistant coach a Disability baseball team, peer tutor in the Special Education classroom at my High School, nanny a little girl with Autism, and have participated in a performance group for kids with Special Needs and Abilities. My heart is with that community and I would like to be a Special Educator and continue to show kids within the Special Needs community what they are capable of and help them develop skills and confidence for life.
The fighting spirit I have gained through my desire to honor Afton will help me as a Special Educator to advocate for and educate incredible kids with Special Needs and Abilities.