Option 1: Relationships & Impact
Like most people, I have encountered struggles throughout my life. As my mom tells it, I struggled from the day I was born, whether it was extreme GERD that required countless bibs and changes of clothes throughout the day as an infant, the emergence of food allergies as a toddler, or wearing braces on my feet to correct my gait as a child, it was always something. I am not really sure why I began to develop mental health struggles as a child, but I experienced my first inpatient stay at a mental health facility when I was eight years old, and things just seemed to snowball from there. Diagnoses of ADHD, Autism, Sensory Integration Disorder, Dyslexia, Dysgraphia, and finally, a complex tic disorder as a teenager all seemed to pile on in a never-ending avalanche of mountains I had to climb just to appear "normal". When I list it all out like that, it seems like a lot for one kid to manage, and I will admit that it was not always easy. But I had my mom, and that made all the difference in the world. My mom knew from an early age that I was going to face many challenges, and she decided she would never let the limitations others might impose on me define who I was. She tried and tried to teach me to ride a bike, but I just couldn't get it. Others told her it was okay and that I didn't need to ride a bike, but I wanted to. So she figured out how to help me. I eventually went to occupational therapy to gain that skill, and it was about two years later than the other kids, but I did it. And that is just who my mom is. She approached every new situation with the mindset that I COULD do it, we just had to figure out how.
We were told that I might never drive, hold a steady job, or manage my own finances. When you hear those things as a young person, it tends to impact your ability to see yourself as successful. But for my mom, those things weren't roadblocks; they were just hills we had to climb one step at a time. I got my driver's license at 16, have worked at the same job for over two years, and am now a supervisor, and manage all of my money on my own; I even have a credit card that she is teaching me how to use responsibly.
For my job, I teach swim lessons, lifeguard, and am a Deck Supervisor at the Goldfish Swim School. Additionally, I manage birthday parties, our swim meets, and oversee family swim. At Goldfish Swim School, we refer to students with special needs as "golden students". At my location, if possible, my managers place all of the golden students with me as their teacher, and I am known as the "golden student whisperer". I love working with kids with special needs because I can always see their potential, and I never assume they can't do something. I learned that from my mom.
It has always just been my mom and me, as my father moved away before I was born. But I wouldn't have it any other way, because I would not be who I am today, with a great future ahead of me, without her. She taught me how to spend time with people and get to know who they are inside and not just how they might appear on the outside. She taught me how to persevere, how to show up for the people you love, and how to live my life to its fullest.