Responsibility shaped how I approached my life long before I had the stability to support it. As the middle child in my family, I learned early to be independent and dependable.
During my sophomore year of high school, my parents finalized their divorce. With almost no warning, I had to leave California and move to Arizona with my mom. I flew alone and arrived in Arizona the night before school started, becoming the first of my siblings to move away. For several weeks, I lived out of my suitcase and slept on an air mattress in someone else’s living room, doing homework wherever I could find space. Trying to adjust to a new school on my own while lacking stability made it difficult to focus on my academics.
The impact of that transition was immediate and unfamiliar. I had always considered myself a strong student, but my grades slipped and I experienced challenges I had never faced before. I no longer recognized the student I used to be and started to believe that my circumstances put a permanent limit on my abilities and aspirations.
After the first semester of my sophomore year, I realized that I was the only one who could turn my situation around. Without external support, I rebuilt myself and relearned how to manage my schoolwork while dealing with mental fatigue that made everything feel impossible. Although my grades that year did not fully reflect my goals, the effort I put into improving became the foundation for the student I am today.
The following summer, my younger sister moved to Arizona to join me, shifting my role in our family even further. With an unpredictable schedule and our one parent often away, I became the most consistent person she could depend on. At home, responsibility is not something I step into occasionally, but something I carry every day. I cook meals, maintain our household, provide transportation, help her academically, and act as a steady emotional support system. These responsibilities are rarely seen or recognized, but they have taught me consistency, patience, and what it means to show up for someone without being asked.
At the same time, my roles did not exist in isolation. I had to continue showing up for my family while managing my own academic struggles and rebuilding my performance.
I treated my junior year as a turning point. I took on more challenging coursework and worked to balance commitments that had previously burned me out. I proved to myself that I could maintain strong grades in rigorous classes while continuing to work and support my family. Each semester since reflects growth, discipline, and a renewed belief in my capabilities. More importantly, it reflects my ability to sustain that growth over time.
My family’s financial situation added another layer of difficulty. With my parents in separate households, there is limited income. My dad’s work has been inconsistent for several years, and he relies on SNAP benefits to cover basic necessities. My mom is the primary provider for our household, and we have relied on fee waivers and programs like free and reduced-price lunch to help meet our needs. Because of this, many opportunities that other students can access more easily, such as travel, campus visits, or multiple application fees, required careful consideration or were simply not possible.
To support myself and contribute where I can, I have worked multiple jobs throughout high school, including tutoring, babysitting, and my current job at an ice cream shop. Balancing employment alongside a demanding academic schedule and responsibilities at home has required me to manage my time with intention. I have learned how to transition quickly between roles, from student to employee to caregiver, without letting one responsibility diminish another. These experiences have strengthened my discipline, accountability, and ability to work under pressure.
These experiences have shaped the way I approach engineering. I am drawn to mechanical engineering because it allows me to solve problems in ways that are both creative and practical. I believe engineering can improve everyday life when approached with the user in mind. My most meaningful experience with this came through the Makers of Change Assistive Technology Challenge, where my team designed an adaptive activity for a five-year-old boy with severe cerebral palsy. By analyzing his needs and refining our design through multiple iterations, we created a system that allowed him to play more independently with his siblings.
That experience showed me how thoughtful, human-centered design can directly improve someone’s life. It reinforced my belief that engineering is not just about building functional systems, but about creating solutions that are accessible, responsive, and meaningful to the people who use them. This perspective connects directly to the way I approach responsibility in my own life. I pay attention to what people need, adapt when something is not working, and continue improving until I find a solution that makes a difference.
Beyond the work I hope to create, I also want to contribute to expanding who feels included in engineering. Many students lack early exposure or encouragement in STEM, which can limit their confidence in pursuing these fields. Through my involvement in the Society of Women Engineers and my work as a tutor, I have already begun supporting others in building that confidence. In the future, I hope to continue mentoring students and eventually return to education as an engineering teacher, using my experiences to help others see that they belong in these spaces.
Responsibility has shaped my life in ways that extend far beyond any single experience. It has taught me how to adapt, how to persevere, and how to find purpose in the challenges I face. While my path has required me to balance more than many of my peers, it has also given me a clear sense of direction. I am committed to using what I have learned to create meaningful solutions, support others, and continue building a future defined not by my circumstances, but by how I choose to respond to them.