Mind Over Matter – Choosing to Move Forward
“You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” – Marcus Aurelius
This quote by Marcus Aurelius has always stuck with me because it speaks to something I live by every single day. I believe in mind over matter—that even when life feels like it’s spinning out of control, I can ground myself by using logic over emotions. I tell myself, “You have to understand what you’re feeling before you can choose how to act.” If I can separate what I’m feeling in the moment from the bigger picture, I’m able to think clearly and make better decisions.
This mindset connects with my faith too. Romans 8:18 says, “What we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory He will reveal to us later.” That verse has been a source of hope for me during some of the hardest times in my life. It reminds me that the challenges I’m facing now are temporary, and that something greater is waiting on the other side. I see Marcus Aurelius’ words and Romans 8:18 as pointing to the same truth: I can’t control what happens to me, but I can control how I move forward.
Life is like a clock. Time never stops moving, no matter what we go through. The hands keep ticking, whether we want them to or not. I’ve learned that I can’t counteract time or dwell on the past. Instead, I have to go with it. That means choosing not to get stuck in what already happened, no matter how painful it was, and focusing instead on what I can do now. I’ve lived through enough challenges to know that if I stay in the past, I’ll stay stuck. But if I take what I’ve learned and apply it, I’ll grow.
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My Story: What This Mindset Means to Me
I didn’t just wake up one day and decide to think this way. My mindset was shaped by my life experiences. I grew up in a single-parent household and faced a lot of instability at a young age. There were times when I felt like I had to figure out everything on my own. I didn’t always have the support I needed, and I struggled to feel like I belonged. Those experiences made me strong, but they also left me with a lot of emotions I had to work through.
For a long time, I felt like I was in “fight or flight” mode all the time. I was constantly overthinking, always on edge, and I didn’t trust myself to make the right decisions. I would replay situations in my head over and over again, wondering if I could have done something differently. But over time, I realized that living like that was only hurting me. I couldn’t go back and change the past, but I could choose to move forward differently.
That’s when I started practicing mind over matter in my everyday life. For me, that looks like slowing down, organizing my thoughts, and asking myself what’s really important before I react. I’m ADHD, so I need tools to help me stay grounded. I started using visuals, calendars, and time management strategies to keep myself focused. I built habits like taking breaks when I need them, eating well, and prioritizing my mental and physical health. It might sound simple, but those habits changed everything for me.
I also learned to ask for support. One thing my psychology professor said that stuck with me is that support matters most from the people closest to you. So I had a conversation with my loved ones about how important it is to feel supported, not judged. I told them, “Even if you don’t mean harm, put your opinions and judgments aside and try to see things from my perspective. That’s the support I need.” Having those conversations wasn’t easy, but it helped me feel understood.
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Why This Matters for My Future
The reason I connect so deeply with Marcus Aurelius’ quote is because I know how powerful it is to control your mindset. There have been moments when life felt too heavy, and the only thing that kept me moving forward was reminding myself that I could handle it.
This way of thinking is also why I’m pursuing a career as an Occupational Therapist (OT), specializing in pediatrics. I want to help children who may feel like life is stacked against them the way I once did. Kids often don’t have the tools or words to express what they’re going through. They might be struggling with a disability, trauma, or just feeling different from their peers. I want to be the person who supports them, teaches them coping skills, and shows them that they’re capable of so much more than they think.
OT is all about helping people overcome challenges so they can live full, independent lives. That could mean teaching a child how to hold a pencil, helping them build confidence in their abilities, or working with their families to create routines that set them up for success. My personal experiences help me connect with that mission because I know firsthand how life-changing it is when someone believes in you and gives you the right tools.
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Connecting Back to the Quote
When Marcus Aurelius says, “You have power over your mind—not outside events,” I think of the kids I hope to work with one day. I want them to know that they don’t have to be defined by their circumstances. Yes, life can be hard and unfair. There will always be things we can’t control. But we can control how we respond.
I also think of Romans 8:18 when I work toward my goals. Going through school while balancing work and other responsibilities isn’t easy. There are times when I’m exhausted and doubt myself. But that verse reminds me that the struggles I face now are temporary. I’m working toward something bigger than myself: a future where I can use my skills and my story to help others.
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How I Plan to Use My Education
I’m currently working toward my Associate of Science degree, and then I plan to apply for an OTA (Occupational Therapy Assistant) program. After that, I’ll earn my Bachelor of Science in Psychology while becoming certified as an OTA. My long-term goal is to complete my Master’s in Occupational Therapy so I can practice as a full OT, specializing in pediatrics.
I know this path will take time and a lot of hard work, but I’m ready for it. I’ve learned that the best things in life don’t come easy, and that’s okay. My education is going to allow me to impact the world in a very real way. Every child I work with will represent an opportunity to change the trajectory of their life, just like my teachers and mentors have done for me.
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Lessons I Carry with Me
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that it’s okay to not have everything figured out right away. There was a time when I felt behind because I didn’t have a straight path after high school. But now I see that those experiences gave me a stronger sense of purpose. I’m not just pursuing a degree because it’s the next step—I’m pursuing it because I know exactly why it matters.
I’ve also learned that it’s okay to ask for help. That’s something I struggled with for a long time because I felt like I had to be independent all the time. But I’ve realized that asking for help doesn’t make me weak. In fact, it’s one of the strongest things you can do. Whether it’s leaning on family, talking to a professor, or seeking out mentors, those connections have made a huge difference in my journey.
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Closing: Moving Forward with Purpose
When I think about Marcus Aurelius’ quote, I see it as a challenge to live intentionally. I can’t always choose what happens to me, but I can choose how I respond. I can choose to keep moving forward instead of getting stuck in the past. I can choose to use logic over emotions when life feels overwhelming.
Romans 8:18 reminds me that the pain I experience now is temporary, but the impact I can make will last. That’s what keeps me going. I want to be a light for others, especially the kids I’ll work with as an OT. I want to show them that they’re stronger than they think, that they have power over their own minds, and that their future is brighter than they can imagine.
Life is like a clock, and time keeps moving. I can’t stop it, and I can’t rewind it. But I can make the most of every second by moving forward with purpose. That’s the legacy I want to leave.
I may have gone a little off script, but this was such a meaningful prompt that it gave me the chance to reflect and make the best of it. I’m grateful for the opportunity to share my story and what this quote means to me. Marcus Aurelius said, “You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” That line isn’t just a quote to me—it’s how I choose to live my life. No matter what challenges I face, I’ll keep moving forward with purpose, focusing on what I can control, and making the best of every moment. Thank you.