
AMBER GRAY
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AMBER GRAY
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FinalistBio
My name is Amber Gray. I’m a 28-year-old single mother from a small town, pursuing a degree in Human Resources Management. Balancing parenthood, work, and school has taught me resilience, discipline, and the value of education. I’m passionate about helping others succeed in the workplace and creating supportive environments through HR. Receiving this scholarship would ease the financial burden and allow me to continue building a better future for myself and my child.
Education
Jacksonville State University
Bachelor's degree programMajors:
- Business, Management, Marketing, and Related Support Services, Other
Jefferson State Community College
Trade SchoolMajors:
- Dentistry
Miscellaneous
Desired degree level:
Master's degree program
Graduate schools of interest:
Transfer schools of interest:
Majors of interest:
Career
Dream career field:
Human Resources
Dream career goals:
Solomon Vann Memorial Scholarship
In today’s world, social media is everywhere we turn, shaping how we see ourselves and how we move through this world. For many Black women and young people, social media can be both a mirror and a magnifying glass, reflecting unrealistic beauty standards while also amplifying societal pressures that weigh heavy on our minds and spirits.
Social media often creates a cycle of comparison, where people measure their worth by the curated highlight reels of others. When we scroll, it can feel like everyone else is living a better, prettier, or more successful life, which can quietly chip away at our self-esteem. This constant exposure can lead to feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, and even depression, especially among young people who are still forming their identities. We can see it in how many of our girls edit their photos, worry about likes, or feel unseen if their posts don’t receive validation.
For Black women in particular, social media can amplify pressures around appearance, skin tone, body type, and hair, rooted in eurocentric standards that often dominate these platforms. We see “skinny thick” body ideals and flawless makeup routines that don’t always reflect our reality. This can create a disconnect between who we are and who we feel we need to be online to be accepted, making it hard to appreciate our authentic beauty and journeys.
However, it is also true that social media can provide community, visibility, and empowerment. It gives us spaces to share our stories, learn from each other, and see examples of Black joy, success, and resilience. But to truly protect our mental health, we need to learn to use these platforms intentionally, instead of letting them use us.
To address the negative impacts, individuals can begin by curating their feeds to follow people and pages that uplift, educate, and inspire them. Unfollowing accounts that spark comparison, anxiety, or feelings of inadequacy is an act of self-care. Setting boundaries around social media use, such as taking breaks or limiting screen time, can help reclaim mental peace and prevent burnout.
Community and family conversations around self-worth that is rooted in faith, values, and personal growth, rather than social media validation, are also crucial. Schools and youth programs can teach media literacy, helping young people understand that social media often presents a filtered reality, not the full truth.
Finally, social media companies can take responsibility by providing more tools for users to manage their time online and to report content that promotes harmful standards or bullying. They can also work to amplify diverse, authentic content that reflects a broader spectrum of beauty, body types, and lived experiences.
Social media is not going away, and it can be a tool for connection and growth when used mindfully. As Black women, we deserve to protect our peace and self-worth, remembering that we are enough as we are, regardless of the highlight reels we see on our screens. By fostering self-awareness, intentional boundaries, and community support, we can navigate social media without allowing it to diminish the light we carry within us.