Some of the best moments of my childhood were some of my mom’s worst. Every so often, I would get to miss school and travel to Nashville. I loved everything about it. I loved the music, the feeling of a city that was alive, and the simple excitement of eating snacks on a three-hour drive. It felt like a small escape from worksheets and routine. All I had to do to earn that little escape was hold my sister’s hand in the backseat.
At that age, I did not understand that my mom was experiencing a completely different reality of the same trip. My sister, who is mentally and developmentally delayed, struggled during those rides. She would gag herself or throw objects into the front seat, and from the driver’s seat my mom had no way to stop her. Those trips to Nashville were never about fun. They were about specialists, evaluations, and advocating for my sister. While I stared out the window at skyscrapers, my single mom was trying to hold our family together with her bare hands. She scheduled multiple appointments in one day, figured out what my sister needed, and managed three other children on a tight budget. I watched the world go by while she held my sister still and screaming during blood draws.
I think about this difference often, and I think about how hard my mom worked to make something overwhelming feel almost effortless. That is what shaped me. That is the moment that taught me what it means to serve others. As a future speech language pathologist, I carry that memory as a reminder that families come into the clinic already carrying heavy emotional labor. My job is not just to complete an evaluation or run a session. My job is to understand the weight behind their drive, their hope, and their exhaustion. I could choose to focus only on my technical responsibilities, but I know that compassion is just as important. Being kind and empathetic is a choice I make every day.
These qualities show up in my life beyond my family. I volunteer often, even in spaces where I do not have a direct connection. I proctor history events for high schoolers and teach budgeting skills at a local church. I’m not part of the history club or that church, but I simply enjoy meeting people and supporting my community. I also served as a resident advisor for three years. Staying in that position requires patience, empathy, and a willingness to show up for people at their worst. I have listened to students cry, mediated conflicts, and built programs to uplift my residents. Some of the programs received regional and national recognition, which meant a great deal to me because I put my heart into making people feel supported.
My educational path is also non-traditional. I started in exercise science, and I felt like I was swimming up a waterfall while trying to complete this path. I failed anatomy and physiology several times and almost lost my scholarships. I submitted two SAP appeals and came very close to dropping out. When I switched to communication disorders, I treated it as my last chance to stay in school. To my surprise, everything clicked. I fell in love with phonetics, observations, and the idea that communication is at the center of human connection. I went from nearly failing out to earning back-to-back semesters with a 4.0. For the first time in college, I felt like I understood my purpose.
I do not think deeply anymore about the days when my sister gagged herself until she vomited. I see her every week while I am in college, and I see the same determination in my mom’s actions now as I saw then. What I do think about are the moments that were messy, overwhelming, and not yet figured out. Those moments taught me how much progress can matter in a family’s life. Today, my sister blows kisses instead of gagging. I want to be someone who helps make transitions like that possible for other families.
I am a non-traditional student because of where I started and what I have lived through. I have grown up watching someone navigate systems, advocate in overwhelming situations, and hold everything together even when it felt impossible. I have learned perseverance from challenges that could have stopped my education entirely. I have learned compassion from watching my sister’s world change slowly and painfully and beautifully. And I have learned kindness from seeing how small actions can make the hardest days feel bearable.
I carry these lessons into every space I enter. They shape how I serve others, how I view resilience, and how I plan to practice as a speech language pathologist. Genuine care for patients matters. I know the weight that families carry, and now I want to help lighten it. It is this passion and spirit I hope to bring into my future career.