My earliest childhood memories are of my father's struggle with PTSD, depression, and substance abuse. I was born while he fought as an infantryman in Operation Iraqi Freedom. I have been told that he was a sweet man, bright and bubbly, full of humor and light, but he came back different, dark and forever changed. I have held my breath for as long as I can remember, waiting for the storm to pass, the second in line behind my mother, shielding all my little siblings as best I can. I love my father, but my mother is my rock, my salvation, my calm in the storm of life. My mother knew what was wrong with my dad the moment his boots hit the ground; she was the daughter of a disabled veteran of Vietnam. My mom knew PTSD, depression and substance abuse like the back of her hand and ensured that my dad had constant support, counseling, and helped him overcome his addictions to alcohol and pain killers. She did it with a smile and while taking care of my beloved grandfather who was dying of Parkinson's and heart disease due to Agent Orange exposure and years of alcoholism.
I learned at a young age how to distract, entertain, listen, and care for people who needed me. With my dad it was a long walk, he loves to hike and backpack on long trails and planning an adventure with him always helped him out of dark places. With my grandfather it was singing, we sang to him for years as his disease entombed his body but left his mind clear, sharp and frantic. I had the honor of holding him in my arms with my mother and singing him to heaven, a devastating but profoundly spiritual experience that I shall never forget. In the future I would like to help others who suffer from these tragic mental health and substance abuse issues. I hope I can be the bright light in the darkness as my mother and I have been for my father and grandfather.
For as long as I can remember I have never felt right in my own skin, like an itch that could never be scratched, the beautiful girl in the mirror couldn't be me, and when I was twelve years old, I came out to my mother as transgender. While my mother accepted me with open arms and a loving heart the rest has not been rainbows and unicorns. I am from a farm in a tiny rural town and have faced countless homophobic encounters, negativity, bigotry, and even death threats. I am lucky to have great support at home, placement in a new school that accepts me and access to counseling, physicians, and psychologists who have helped me deal with my trauma, transition, and reaching an ADHD diagnosis.
I have been accepted into UW-LaCrosse with a major in recreational therapy and plan to use my degree to help those who are suffering through activity-based therapies. I chose this career because it suits my personality, I love volunteering at camps for disabled veterans and children, and I love to entertain people and see them smile. I want to bring joy back into their heats, I want them to know that they are not alone. I respectfully request that you consider me for the Cade Reddington Be the Light Scholarship because I too want to be a light, a peer mentor to LGBTQ kids who need love, acceptance, and support, and a beacon like my mother before me to people who need light in their darkest hour.