Most athletes wouldn't brag about this, but I do. It took me three years to win my first wrestling match. That statistic has turned out to be one of the most important parts of my story and my growth.
Wrestling didn’t come naturally to me. I wasn’t the strongest or the fastest, and I was a novice when I joined the team my sophomore year, after relocating across the United States for my mother's job. As someone with Autism, wrestling poses sensory challenges, and I had to learn to manage those, communicate effectively with coaches and teammates, and learn to be my best self in intense environment that often felt overwhelming. I kept showing up. I kept training. I kept listening. I lost too many matches to count. And eventually, I won.
Wrestling changed the way I view adversity by teaching me that progress isn’t always fast or easy, but it’s always possible if you stay committed, coachable, and open to learning. As someone with autism, I was generally hesitant to ask for help or unsure how to process feedback. Wrestling helped me to overcome those barriers. I learned that I wanted to improve and be successful, I had to learn to acknowledge my weaknesses and be coachable. That meant listening closely, accepting correction, and trusting others to guide me. In the moment that always felt uncomfortable, but in hindsight, learning to hone those skills was transformative. Slowly, I began to see that adversity, i.e. losing matches, wasn’t something to avoid at all costs, but rather, it was something for me to grow through.
I learned that failure isn’t final unless you let it be. Losing match after match could have discouraged me, but with the help of my coaches and family, it motivated me. I focused on technique, strategy, and mindset. I started to understand that wrestling is as much mental as it is physical. Each setback became an opportunity to reflect and adjust. Finally, in my senior year, wins started coming, and more importantly, I saw my confidence and self-concept grow.
What makes wrestling different from other sports I've done is how personal it feels. When I step on the mat, it’s just me and my opponent. With every strength and every weakness is exposed, that pressure over time has taught me to believe in myself, even when the odds weren’t in my favor. That pressure has also taught me to prepare to the best of my ability. Lastly, that pressure has taught me to bounce back when things don't go as planned. These lessons have carried over into my academic and personal life. I’ve become more focused, more resilient, and more willing to advocate for myself and others.
This year, I accepted an offer to wrestle at Linfield University, a decision that reflects the impact this sport has had on me. Wrestling didn’t just make me stronger physically, it made me aware of my potential. In just three years, I am more coachable, confident, and resilient in the face of setbacks. These changes have had a direct impact on my hopes for the future.
Because of wrestling, I have the mindset and mental toughness to face challenges far beyond the mat, like law school, advocacy work, and standing up for people whose voices are often ignored. I plan to study Law, Rights, and Justice and become a lawyer who works to make systems more inclusive and equitable. Wrestling showed me that progress takes time, effort, and belief, and I now carry that same belief into my future: that I can make a lasting impact.