I've learned the hard way that positive mental health is not only important, it can be the difference between life and death. As a dark-skinned, Ethiopian adoptee growing up in a predominately white community created an internal struggle that haunted me throughout my childhood and only got worse in my teenage years. In elementary school, a classmate told me I couldn't be Luke Skywalker for Halloween because I was black. In middle school, I would try to curl in my lips so they looked 'less African' one day and then wear saggy pants to look 'more black' the next to try and fit in. Those are just a few examples of experiences that fostered a daily battle inside me which came to a head in high school.
As a freshman, I became increasingly obsessed with my body and what I perceived as its flaws. Even though I'm a pretty social guy, I withdrew from hanging out with friends. I couldn't even go the the mall because I was sure everyone, including strangers, were judging me. The only way I thought to solve this was to 'fix' my body which meant developing an unhealthy relationship with food. I basically starved myself one summer to try to get my body where I wanted it to be before the next school year began. When I was unhappy or viewed the results as unsuccessful, I began to cut myself as punishment. My life was spiraling into dark places fast and I needed help. I began to work with a psychologist who diagnosed me with BDD, Body Dysmorphic Disorder. He helped me work talk through what I was feeling. After making some positive progress with my attitude towards food and my self image, he challenged me to re-enter social situations. I also joined group therapy for teens with eating disorders which I got a lot out of. It has been a long road, and I'm not completely out of the woods yet, but I'm happier and healthier. I'm committed to doing the work to improve my mental health.
Mental health is important because it affects so many aspects of our lives. It affects your relationships with friends and family, your ability to find success in work or school, and your ability to handle to ups and downs that life brings. People often hide their struggles due to the fear of negative stigma. In my case, I felt so isolated being a male who struggled with body image until I reached out for help and realized I wasn't alone. Promoting positive mental health practices and resources has become more mainstream which is much needed. Ultimately, mental wellness helps us be good to ourselves and to become positive contributors to our community.
Maintaining mental wellness is important and I've found a few things that really work for me. Running is a great stress relief for me and I find that it also re-energizes me if I'm feeling down. I also love music so I'll treat myself to a few minutes with my headphones in when I need a break from homework. It was important for me to find a balance between school, my part-time job, and making time for friends. I also reach out to my parents, guidance counselor, and psychologist when I feel overwhelmed. I understand that maintaining mental wellness shouldn't be an afterthought. I'm grateful to have the tools to help myself and have become confident enough with myself to encourage friends to also seek help when they're struggling.
All of these experiences and lessons I've learned about mental health has definitely shaped how I see my future. While I've always accepted people for who they are and find a way to appreciate each individual's life journey, I do try to surround myself with people who share my positive attitude, strong work ethic, and drive for a happy, healthy life. I definitely foster those relationships where I feel accepted and supported knowing how these connections contribute to my mental health. Additionally, I realize the importance of choosing a career that not only provides for daily needs in life, but also taps into passions that ultimately make me happy. My goal is to become an architect and work with companies who appreciate animal-centric designs that create harmony with nature. I plan to incorporate sustainable, eco-friendly materials in these spaces. Working on projects such as these will contribute positively to my mental health because they integrate my passion for veganism and environmentally conscious living. I'm dedicated to finding a way to make a positive impact on the global community because it fills my mind and soul in the best way.
I've learned that navigating life is full of ups and downs. There will always be battles to maintain mental wellness. Knowing yourself and being your own advocate is the road to true success and a happy, healthy life.