“Haq eymji”, my mom urged as I sat disoriented in my wrecked car, hijab half off, as the owners of the car I hit interrogated me. “Did you see the stop sign or not?” Silence. “Haq eymji”, my mom repeated. This was not the time for her to make me guess what she was trying to say. I mustered out a “yes”, and many useless questions followed. The whole ride home, I sat with my head down embarrassed, wishing I understood and spoke our native language of Harari.
Every year, my family goes on a trip, named “kuba”, to spend time with our small tribal family. Harari people from all over the world come together in one city during this reunion to celebrate our rich culture. It is often the highlight of my summers because reuniting reminds me that no matter how little our numbers are, we are strong.
Though it is always fun, I am constantly ridiculed because my Harari-speaking skills are subpar. After being made fun of in Washington D.C, my embarrassment peaked as children outshined me. Hearing my 4-year-old cousin speak Harari more fluently than me was the slap in the face that made me realize that I needed to learn. I made it my goal to be fluent in Harari by the July 2020 annual Harari reunion in Toronto.
Every day, I worked to improve my Harari. My mom taught me (a little too late) that “Haq eymji” means “tell the truth.” This phrase was new since I hate to lie, so I added it to my mental collection. My immigrant parents were of little help, as they often wanted to practice their English. I put my embarrassment aside as I attempted to speak to older relatives in Harari with my thick American accent. Even when I FaceTimed my Harari cousins, I asked them to speak to me in Harari. They thought it was a game, but I wasn’t playing. I even half-jokingly asked my 4-year-old cousin to teach me Harari out of desperation. As July rapidly approached, I still couldn’t cohesively speak so I dreaded facing my Harari relatives again only to give them more blank stares.
Kuba 2020 never came. COVID-19 pushed my visit to Toronto to Summer 2021. Instead of dwelling on the fact that I couldn’t see my Harari family, I kept my positive demeanor and saw this as an extension of my deadline given to me by Allah. I couldn’t waste this opportunity, and I worked twice as hard. While in quarantine, I prohibited English in my house, and my parents became my teachers. They saw how serious I was, and were happy to help me get more connected to our culture.
I am still not fluent in Harari. It got especially frustrating in July, knowing that the due date past without success. My mom comforted me, though, by explaining how her English still isn’t perfect after 20 years. I wanted to learn Harari in a few months. Looking back, I see how ridiculous this sounds.. I learned it is okay to take my time, and that I shouldn’t beat myself up. I made significant progress, and by next kuba my conversations will hopefully be fully in Harari. If not, I will confidently speak my broken Harari to everyone I encounter, because practice makes perfect. If all fails, at least I can confidently say “Haq eymji.”
My road to learning Harari is filled with bumps and stop signs, and driving is still not my specialty. Thoughts like, “Why should I learn this; it’s only spoken by 30,000 people ” are speed bumps that I always get over. I intend to drive past all stop signs on the road to fluency, but in real life, I will never drive past one of those red octagons again, and I am telling the truth. Without my mom, my true role model, I wouldn't have wanted to start learning Harari. I wouldn't have had a teacher to speak with, and I would've felt extremely down about myself. I look up to my mom so much, and I cannot wait until the day I can carry a full conversation with her in perfect Harari and make her proud.