Gloria Millender "I am 3rd" - J. O. Y. Scholarship

“Steel sharpens steel.” – Proverbs 27:17. This verse has been a guiding principle in my life, especially during my hardest times. But over time, I realized the sharpening wasn’t just about personal growth—it was also about how my trials could shape me into someone stronger for the sake of others. It was through adversity that I learned what it truly means to put Jesus first, others second, and myself third. Growing up, I didn’t have the stability many take for granted. I moved from house to house, borough to borough, never having a place to call home—physically or emotionally. At around ten years old, I felt lost, almost like I was disappearing into the clouds of uncertainty and doubt. I didn’t understand it then, but Jesus was already working through those moments, molding me through the fire. It was that discomfort that began teaching me humility, patience, and resilience. When my family separated, I was still just a kid—but I knew I had a choice. I could fall into despair, or I could become a rock for my little sister. I chose to be the pillar she could lean on. Even when I shattered my wrist and was physically broken, I learned to depend on God and others—not because I was weak, but because we were stronger together. That’s when I really began to live out the principle of putting others before myself. My pain became a tool that helped me serve and uplift someone else. But at the heart of it all was Jesus. When I stopped asking “why me?” and started asking “how can I serve through this?” my perspective shifted. My hardships were no longer just obstacles—they were opportunities. Jesus never promised an easy path, but He promised to walk with us. And in following His example, I found strength—not just for myself, but to be a source of strength for others too. Going forward, I’m committed to continuing this mindset. Whether it's in my future career, my relationships, or in everyday life, I plan to lead with service. I want to live in a way where people see Jesus reflected through my actions—where I put His will above my own comfort, others’ needs above my wants, and continue to grow through every trial I face. Like steel forged in fire, I’ve been shaped by adversity—but not just for my own sake. I’ve been forged to serve.